my bf is a 26 yr. old turkish guy, he's a very kind and sensitive guy and not to mention he's more conservative than me.we havent meet yet..i mean personally but we do keo updates on each other for almost two years now..he calls me 4 times a day and we send each other mail 6 times a week..i've met he's parents and brothers thru webcams and so does he.Marriage plans is he's favorite topic and he decided to come here in manila to meet me and my family.I think he's taking things too fast and i just want to hold him back.Should i tell him to take things one at a timeand hold on a bit so we can trully know each other personally?
2007-03-22 19:34:22 · 15 answers · asked by ginnywes18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW! ok do not marry someone you have never met and haven't spent time with. i don't mean to sound harsh but i have discovered thru many experiences that you never truly know someone unless you spend actual time with them. people can say many thing and be the nicest person over the phone or thru emails but the actual life experience you gain from having met and spent time with someone is much different. really getting to know and love a person means seeing them thru their best and their worst. if you think that things are moving too fast then they are, otherwise you wouldn't even be asking this!!!!!!!! your life is about you and you only. you should be a powerful, strong person who loves themselves! you should never change yourself for someone else! and definitely not change your religion!!!! people can be in love and married while celebrating different faiths. there is absolutely no need for you to change your religion for him! you should only make a decision like that if you found a way you and your soul could connect to God better than the way you have now. please i beg you, as a woman and as a person who feels a connection to you, do not marry a man unless you have dated (like physically been with one another and not just thru email, phone calls and web cams)!!!!! you will never really know what he is like unless you spend a lot of time together. and anyone who's asks you to change yourself is not the person for you! if someone truly loves you with all of their heart they will never ever ask you to change anything about yourself!!!!! i can not stress this enough. please email me if you would like to talk more about this (it's pixie2dust2@yahoo.com). you have a friend in me!
2007-03-22 19:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first advice is don't rush it. even if you already knew each other for two years (only thru the internet) you still don't know the 'real' him. and also, before deciding to convert try to get as much information about islam first. all has its good and bad points. so don't convert unless you're really positive about it. if in the end you find you're willing to observe all islamic rules, then do it. and the decision should be yours alone. don't let anyone else judge for you coz you're the one who has to live with the consequences. just remember that converting to another religion is a BIG decision!
2007-03-22 19:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by hanashima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very cautious with this. You may find his culture to be much more than you realize. Web cam will not do it. Phone calls will not do it, He may be a far different person in Turkey than you can know. Let him come but do not make a commitment until you know for sure. Perhaps visit Turkey with a round trip ticket.
2007-03-22 19:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess, your parents needs to understand more about Islam, and what it offers then saying no to you for not becoming a Muslim. This is difficult since your parents don't know much about our religion, which is Islam. If you like the religion. I say, go for it.
2016-03-29 00:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf really loves u then u can take a decision of converting... bcos we have learned that people give up their life jus for the sake of love i dont think giving up ur religion is not a big deal... MOre over it is really good for your future kids to follow one religion..
2007-03-22 19:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by jerk_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is muslim he or his family wil force u to convert in to islam. that sure. try to understand his view point towards religioun. what i understood you both are not discussed more about future plans and family life. discuss all those things regarding life. where you will stay, what about your career, can you follow christianity, what about the children etc. only after discussion give your address. and u discuss this with ur family also. muslims dont like filipinos westernised culture. in that case they are narrow minded. today u both wil marry becouse of the "blindness of love" tomoro you have face the real life, u have to face the people of Turkey, their culture. think all these factors. but please dont convert. i can tell this authentically, im hindu married a filipino, i never allowed her to think about convertion. living with christ's principles are her happiness.
2007-03-22 20:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Krishnakumar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just itching to escape this lousy turkey. he will clinge to anything just to get away from it. and maybe he is proposing not only to u. gesus woman, don't u have any parents or friends to talk sense into u? and do not forget -once he is attached to u and escapes his lousy country without any prospects he will start to cheat like there is no tomorrow. there re billions of them in my country, nobody except ugly fat desperate old women are even looking in their direction. arab men are the lousiest on this planet
2007-03-22 19:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regard personal knowledge as essential. The conversion decision must be yours alone; I have looked at Islam closely and consider it nonsense. As for letting him decide issues, you have to decide how much you trust his judgment.
2007-03-22 19:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont make any big decisions like that.. meet him IN PERSON and get to know him before you make a choice like that
2007-03-22 19:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by js95116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like saying if I marry my dog, should I eat dog food?
2007-03-22 19:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋