How do you handle rejection?

Question

I recently got my first rejection and it really hurts....anyone know how to get rid of this feeling?

And to save you trouble the MOVE ON thing doesn't work for me =P Cause i still have feelings for her...

Answer 1

Everybody gets a no in life. You have to understand that's a part of taking that risk of asking someone out. All you can do is work at getting past it. It hurts now but in day or two it will hurt less. Then in a week even less. Before you know it you will be getting that lump in your throat, your palms will start to sweat as you are getting ready to ask someone else out. It'll be OK. It could be worse. Heck I usually don't get a rejection, they just look at me and take off running.

Answer 2

Your girlfriend ended your relationship and you are taking it personally. It was a decision that had more to do with her and very little to do with you even though you were the one she was seeing. The relationship 'ran it's course'. If she had not broken off the relationship, eventually you would have. I know you have feelings but let me tell you that she will not be the last woman to walk away from you. And some young lady will be hurt one day when you walk away from her. You, like everyone else, are enrolled in a school known as the University of Life.

Answer 3

I handle rejection by not ever having any :) Just another perk of my lifestyle. Im at school or at home; the only other place I go is grocery shopping once a week on the way home, so no special trips are involved. Other than those places I have no social contact at all. Im male, 42, retired, and live alone. Not married, never had children. A lot of people wouldn't like to live the way I do, yet i don't have to worry about kids getting sick, college tuition for them, a wife leaving me or dealing with her attitude, expensive dental/medical bills for kids, the time effort or frustration of raising them, dating, the cost of eating out, being home at a certain time, worrying about being somewhere on time to meet someone, driving kids around to their sports or other activities, OR ever being rejected. :) Good Luck

Answer 4

I know that feeling.

One thing that helps me somewhat is to keep oneself busy. Get the emotional support of your parents/family members/friends, spend time on a healthy hobby, or work harder at school/work/something productive. Make a conscious decision to not let the rejection take over your daily life.

Whenever you're ready try asking someone else out. And who knows, one day maybe you will meet a girl you like who likes you back.

Answer 5

Is it hurt due to the admiration, or is it pride? Identify which is which first.

Every time someone tells me of hurt, I wonder if it's because of pride, or because of the loss itself.

Look at it this way. I'm single and 25, and never, ever been on a date. Everyone knows my situation, but it never changes. Basically, for every day I am single, all of America is rejecting me, daily. At least you don't have it this bad.

Answer 6

Rejection is one of the worst things in the world. Everybody fears it and with good reason. It happens to everybody, everybody. The feeling will not go away but will be assuaged when you are successful. Take a chance and jump in. Faint heart neer won fair lady.

Answer 7

dude every guy gets rejected atleast a few times...she doesn't feel the same for you as you do for her...so you have to get over that fact...just man up and find some new girl that you think is hot...see you really didn't have anything but a crush with this girl so you really have not lost anything....hey its happened to me and i was upset about it...but i learned to soon get over it....give it a few days...and think about how this is happening to guys everyday....just build up some confindence and maybe you won't get rejected by the next girl.....it tough i know....but you had to learn at some point in your life...mmmkk

Answer 8

rejection was one of the greatest fears for almost everyone... for SOME guys, rejection was painful because of ther EGO and not because they wasn't given that chance to with the girl they want... but there are some cases that its painful for them because they really like that person... they've grown to love that person and yet in the end, they got rejected... and getting over it was not easy... it takes time... specially for you that it's your first time... this would cause you for a fear on the next time you fall for someone... fear of getting rejected again... but then, you have to move on... if you really like that girl, try to befriend her.. show her that you really care for her... that you really love her... but, don't expect anything in return for that... if you can wait for her then go on.. until such time that she realizes that your worth loving for... and if not, and she still rejected you for the second time you propose to her, then it time for you to give up the fight.. it hurts so much but you have to move on and go find for someone who deserves you and your love... just think that its not your lost guy! its hers.... time heals all wounds as they say.......

Answer 9

yeah moving on...hmm lets see nah it works with time!!
as time goes, u move on...... as for now really think of it as a lesson.
things come and go into ure life, this is one of them. u might like her but maybe in a mnth a wonderful women will come along and will say yes to u.
i feel for u, but my best advice is to deal with ure emotions, take time, and then open ure eyes to the other women around and go right back into the game!!!!

Answer 10

i hear most of my guy friends every after rejection that they should find somebody new. try not to think of her (although it's hard in the first few days).