this guy and I have been dating for six months. I told him a few weeks ago that I was in love with him...he said that while he had feelings of love for me...he wasn't in love with me at this point...but felt the day may come. So this week the subject of a future together came up...he said he wasn't sure yet if I was "the one".....and perhaps since he didn't know yet that maybe that means I'm not the one....we both agreed that we didn't want to stop seeing each other...and nothing has really changed....we eat dinner together usually every night...on the nights he has his son...he brings him to.....he sleeps at my house every night when his son isn't home....I help him at his business a few hours each week day--at his request. The sex is fabulous--the friendship strong--we talk and communicate--we don't argue or fight--we have a good thing going on...he says he doesn't think anything is wrong with me..he thinks I'm a great catch...he said he needs to examine his expectations....???
2007-03-22 19:27:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is not pressure him and take the pressure off of yourself and just relax and enjoy the relationship as it is now. It sounds like you are very content with things and I wouldn't read into his telling you he isn't ready to commit yet, because that is what he is doing. You know how everyone has their own list of things they expect out of the "perfect" mate for themselves? Well alot of times people aren't willing to compromise those things and they are looking for someone that has ALL of those qualities and sometimes it can be heartbreakign to people to realize that NO ONE, not one single person in the planet no matter how great they are, has every single quality that everyone is looking for. He may just need the time to evaluate things in his own mind whichis what it seems like. I woould take it at face value and go with things the way they are and see how they play out. he may have been burned in the past and wants to take it slow. if it is meant to be it will happen and if he turns out not to be the right man for you, you will know in time. good luck
2007-03-22 19:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to keep you at arms length. He doesn't want to give his all to you and he doesn't want to let you go either. I think he doesn't want to get hurt or whatever the case may be from his last relationship. And I think he's afraid of hurting your feelings and he doesn't want that on his conscience and he sees what a wonderful person you are but he's not ready to commit fully. The fact that he brings his son around you is a sign that he is totally comfortable. I hope he is the one for you and not just using you because you sound like you have a heart of gold. Just tell him to tell you how he really feels and where the relationship is going.
2007-03-23 02:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with what jc524 said.but in addition to what she said i think that maybe he is being honest with you when he says that he really doesnt know yet that you are the one. hes probably 50/50 on the issue and hasnt had a great influence either way to make a final decision.
2007-03-23 02:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh please. Yuo guys you have got something great going on but I think this guy may not be scared as such but he just want to be careful this time. he has something that he has on the back of his mind that to commit himself to you might bring up fights later and arguements as you guys will be answerable to each other.
2007-03-23 02:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by icycharia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has a son he obviously has an ex... maybe she or another ex broke his heart and he's just scared of getting hurt!
2007-03-23 02:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by js95116 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can see no problem bec it seems that u both agreed on your set up already.or you just too scared to demand more than what he can give?be honest to yourself.know what you want. it's okay to be hurt for the right reasons, for knowing the truth.
2007-03-23 03:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like hes comfertable with everythign you offer but doesnt want to fully commit to the relationship... maybe doesnt want to take it to the next lvl.
2007-03-23 02:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by flipinout_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋