Relationships and going to clubs?

Question

Well me and my boyfriend met at a club, so he is now with a club girl. I don't go much now, but anyway is it okay to still go out to dance clubs when in a relationship? There's really no point in going anymore really, unless you're going with your partner. I used to be a dancer and used to dance salsa and sometimes I still want to go out and practice (cuz i dont do it much anymore) when my boyfriend is not around for me to practice with, and its just for good intentions, i dont go out to try to meet guys, i just go to practice and listen to the music. But I feel guilty doing it because I know he doesn't want me dancing with other guys. But its not like I do it all the time, just a few times. Am I wrong for doing this? I Just want an opinion, and like I said I just go to practice salsa, not to go meet guys.
Is it wrong to do this? Is it considered cheating? What do u think?

Thanks all, really good answers. I dont have any friends here (new in town) so I dont have anybody to talk to about this kinda stuff. Well when we go out to latin clubs we dont really dance much, cuz he doesn't know much salsa (i wanted us to take classes, but he complains about the price) so i get bored just goin there and going straight to the bar (i dont drink.. well a little) and sitting down %50 of the time. I understand that he is not comfotable with it, and I dont rub myself all over the guys, I do keep a certain distance, but the compromising is the hard part. In that case, I just might as well not do it at all.

Answer 1

It's not cheating... it's dancing. You have a right to go out and dance if you want. You'd have to ask your b/f how he feels about it, he might not be very trusting. But if you have no other intentions, then there shouldn't be a problem. Me and my b/f go out to clubs and he tells me to dance with other guys b/c he can't dance, haha... he knows I'm not going to actually have a relationship with anybody else, and as long as the dancing isn't dancefloor sex he's okay with it.

Answer 2

I don't consider it cheating though admittedly many dance clubs are provocative in style and intent. Would you want random, strange girls doing some of the things you see in clubs to guys to YOUR boyfriend?

It's a trust issue. There's give and take, understand that he's probably going to be uncomfortable with you going to clubs without him. On the other hand, he must respect that you want to practice dancing.

I would try to find a compromise where you set aside a day to go dancing together - it doesn't even have to be a club. In return, spend a day with him doing what he'd like to share with you (many guys have hobbies that they would like their girl to know about or at least have the basic understanding of so that way they can tell you about it). It will help to strengthen the relationship as well.

Answer 3

No I don't think it's cheating cause you are just going for the dancing and not the mingling. If your boyfriend doesn't feel comfortable with it, maybe he can go with you and watch you dance because salsa is does require a partner right? Correct me if I'm wrong cause I don't want to get it mixed up. If you are just going to dance, that is not cheating. But if you are going for something more, then that is because you are deceiving him. But talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you miss dancing and try to get him to dance with you.

Answer 4

Well, if you are really committed to him, then whether it's wrong depends on how it would make him feel. It definitely isn't cheating, but if it really makes him feel bad or insecure then you should probably avoid it. There must be a way you can work things out to go with him to do this stuff . . . or you could practice at home with him. I think all guys at least get uneasy when their girlfriends go hang out with other guys . . . just to varying degrees. Good night!

Answer 5

You can practice in your living room. Clubs are a meat market adn you go there for attention. He knows it at whatever level. You know you meet guys while you are "practicing" so in fact you go there knowing that you will "meet" guys and this is not some random surprose that some guy is all of a sudden rubbing on your body and all the things your boyfriend doesn't like.....heard this one a couple thousand times

Answer 6

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Answer 7

One bf I met at a club also, and he used to go out with guy pals to clubs on his own too. Altho I went jus to have fun with friends and nothing more really, i did feel it was sorta bad to not include him. Try either including your bf to join u or if he really is bothered, then try toning it down. I really think that in relationships, if your bf/gf is bothered by something-you gotta at the very least try to *compromise* and find a middle ground.

Answer 8

No, going out and dancing isn't "cheating" I know married women who still enjoy dancing even though their husbands don't. So they go out and enjoy and evening of dancing, usually when their husband's favorite teams are on televison and when they leave the clubs they go home to their husbands. It is cheating when you get emotionally and physically involved with someone in one of the clubs.

Answer 9

Hmmm well lets say , you both loved watching movies at the theatre... and you met at a theatre .... would you think it was ok for him to go and watch movies at the theatre still... without you, and with another woman, or women.... food for thought.. perhaps you should still go to the club, and dance but with him ;)

Answer 10

a little