Guys: What finally gives you that nerve to ask a girl out?

Question

oh and if you don't mind can you state your age?

Answer 1

The triumph of hope over experience.

Answer 2

The realization that most answers from most women to most guys in the history of the world when being asked out have been "NO" and there is nothing to lose because you have permanently lost if you don't ask. Seen in this light it is a wonder that any children have ever been produced because all this rejection seriously messes up most guys' minds, especially when it is thought that most of us are rude crude and lewd without any feelings, sensitivity or respect.

However, to be practical, most guys will simply pass on the best looking women, nerves or not, because our personal experiences show us that most of those women think guys only want them for their looks and the fantasy of how that would translate in terms of sexual relations - but it's really not the guys' fault they are attracted to such beauties, nor should it be assumed that just because you're good looking a guy naturally would want to go out with you - a guy wants a complete package and the looks are the icing - so most guys concentrate on women with great personality, who are fun to be with, who have common interests and acceptable looks first, along with some humility and psychological grace.

That means that the man with the most nerve (or thick skin) and who actually asks out the gorgeous ones and who also has a talent for identifying with the mindset of and communicating with women the best is the winner (in the guy world) in the long run because he has much opportunity. But that's a game most men do not want to play because quite frankly most think that a lot of gorgeous women are really shallow and stuck up on money, 'tool' size and a lot of other senseless stuff; besides they don't really think they'd have a realistic chance so they don't push the envelope far enough to find out the hard way and humiliatate themselves; because mainly those that get turned down while being involved in such gamesmanship do not know the proper way to relate to a woman and have lost before they ever get started, with the final result that this behavior only contributes to the tension between the sexes and makes it even more difficult in general terms for sensitive men to stand any sort of decent chance without being assumed guilty first.

Actually I personally never had that much nerve - I usually went out with those I had been familiar with for awhile, or it was love at first sight; nor have I ever once resorted to pick up lines, not in bars, not in grocery stores, not in church. I find that most women are just plain suspicious of any sort of encounter that is sudden, especially if a guy 'hits' on them to go out. If I am turned down once that is it - I never ask twice because I have thin skin and would rather be a hermit than be a failure - and I along with a lot of other guys do not have the nerve to chase someone - we would rather you spoke plain English instead of playing games - game-playing of any kind by a woman is the end of my interest. Which is why I feel it should be the gals' turn to ask us guys out because many of we men are sick and tired of being the only ones to have to bat less than .300 (which in baseball makes you a star but makes us guys feel like failures), all the while having our basic nature and integrity called into question at every turn in the road.

I hope you will now agree that the male of the species is the weaker sex by far.

Answer 3

If I can make her laugh, she'll go out with me.

I can also tell by the way she looks at me. If I feel like a piece of meat, I know she has already made up her mind and there is nothing to fear.

Answer 4

It's probably the feeling inside of me that makes me want to overcome my fears(confidence, I guess)which is also aiding by outside forces(like persuasion or suggestion from friends.)

Answer 5

By thinking in the direction of: If I ask her out, I'll have 50% chance with her. If I don't, I'll have 0% chance.

Answer 6

im 21. i always go wit honesty. if it works good but if it doesnt oh well i wouldnt want a girl who doesnt want honesty.

Answer 7

i dont know but id like to since im having problems asking ome1 out...

Answer 8

Painful basketballs, baseballs or gulf balls is often the driving, pounding or plugging force.

Answer 9

lots and lots of beer.