long story short,i had this best friend of mine for about 9 years,we became friends in the 6th grade,and ended the friendship as a sophmore in college,like 1 week ago.anyway 9th grade i spilled my guts, told her how i felt about her,i was sincere,i really loved her. but she said no,in a nice way.she jumped from boyfriend to bf, one jerk after another, they hit her, emotionally abandoned her, and only hurt her.i loved her so much and wanted her to be my world. i was her best friend so i got to bring her roses,and take her to movies and dinner,and spend time with her without having to make up excuses as to why.but she could never see how much i wanted her..she broke my heart,it hurt alot and it still does.i just wanted a chance to make her happy,because i can tell it's not a feeling she's used to.i think mentally,i'm emotionally bankrupt,like i just give up,i believe i wasn't meant to be happy,i did my best & failed, so why would it be different with any other girl?
2007-03-22 18:58:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has been with for many many many years!!!! Let
her explore other guys for awhile. If you love her so much,
be patient!!! Eventually she might be with you.
Why not you go explore, and date other girls... maybe there
maybe somebody you might like.
2007-03-22 19:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she only wanted your friendship..and that really was all....be nice to her..I know that it really hurts...but, perhaps she doesn't feel that way...or maybe not yet...but, for now...why can't you just be her good close friend..and move on? Try to talk with her...and tell her that you do care about her....but, that you won't push her...you want to be her friend still(and also, with this...don't get involved in her love life or get too personal ....this could really drive her farther away from you....do you really want this to happen, when you could be great close friends with her, instead? I know you feel those feelings for her...I got that...but, why should you have to lose such a good pal? ya know?
I think that you should give her some space...then call her up...tell her that you will always be there for her...if she needs a shoulder....that you won't push her to be with you....just that you will abide by her decision...and you will not push her..and you will date others..(You cannot be her rescuer...or help her...she is gonna do what she is gonna do...and that is that! SO let it be, okay?!) Just be the greatest friend...but, don't involve your self too much in her personal life...cuz' that can get pretty messy! Just for now, listen...but, don't DO anything to help her...she can manage!
Best wishes to the both of you...I hope that you get back together as bud's!
2007-03-23 02:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by smilingflowergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl recognizes that you love her but she for some reason doesn't think that she deserves the kind of love that you have in store for her. You tried and unfortunately it didn't pay off. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you but you do have to move on. It is going to hurt, you are going to be in pain for awhile but you have to push forward. The way that it will be different with another girl is because it will be another girl. From the way it sounds you didn't do anything wrong. I give you credit for being a good friend and for loving her the way that people should love eacother. You sound like a great guy and I'm sure that you will find the one that will appreciate you and love you the way that you deserve to be loved.
2007-03-23 02:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from a females point of view sometimes when you are used to dating a certain type of guy you do not think that you deserve anything else and it is very hard to know that you deserve better. Sometimes you do not realize that your best friend is actually the one you should be dating because you are so used to just being friends that you can not put in any other light but friendship. I am sure you mean well when you spilled your heart out to her and it might have scared her I do not know her so I can not say but I am sure she was just not ready.
2007-03-23 02:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take every rejection personally, then you are bound to a life sadistic thoughts and corruption. There are far too many rejections in this life than to count.
Keep moving. Life is long when you percieve it to be filled with opportunities and short when you decide it's far to easy to die than to live. There are 6+ billion people on this Earth, and sometimes you just have to deter away from all possible reasoning and in place, implant a sense of hope. You'll be okay, I believe you truly will be.
You must fall down in order to get back up. (cliche) Still holds true even after all these decades and centuries.
Good Luck.
2007-03-23 02:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Philosophical One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. Many women seem to seek out the bad boy. I have asked them why and they never seemed to have an answer. Maybe it is the thrill of something different. It is though they put a sign on their back - Kick Me. Some times they wake up eventually a find a nice guy who will treat them like a lady. Good Luck Been there, done that.
2007-03-23 02:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl does not want you as a lover. Get over it. Stop wasting your money and time on someone who is just burning time on your watch.
This does not mean that all girsl will treat you this way I bet there is a girl out there that is sayinig to herself. Why is this guy putting up with this girl Dosn't he know I loke him and would love to go out with him I would not treat him the wasy she does. I would have repect for him and show him that we could always be friends.
2007-03-23 02:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by The Answer Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful when you get involved with someone. All women aren't the same but you can bet you will run into more like her so just watch listen and learn watch behavior study actions get a few psychology books and study them this may help you to avoid another one like this. She wants someone to treat her bad probably because of some form of abuse she grew up with.
2007-03-23 02:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by queenie one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you guys were friends for about 3 years before you confessed your love to her... and 3 years is a long time (for me), so it's awkward for her...to transit from friend mode to girlfriend mode, she's just used to seeing you as a friend only. Have you bought up the subject of you loving her again? And, what if you're not her type?
I'm so sorry for you. I wish you good luck.
2007-03-23 02:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lisen this might cime out a lil bit harsh nut you need it...You sound emo!!!!!!!! look man i know how you feel i really do, but there are other fish in the sea!!!! look im not say go out there and hit up the frist chick im telling you man to man, she just wasnt right for you man, look ask some of your friends, they might know some one who like you for who you, then get to know then, take it slow, if it dosent work out there, try it again, i've leaned that every girl is different, watch the one person who loves you for who you are and love everything about you is right under your nose, i you dont ever recegnize it...
2007-03-23 02:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by justin glenn Aka Duo Maxwell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help bro. First...look at her pattern. She likes *******. You're too late to start acting like one. You need to start asking out lots of women. You'll get good at it.
Next time treat a girl like she is one of a thousand other choices you have and things will be different.
2007-03-23 02:04:05 · answer #11 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋