what would be the appropriate age to have (s.e.x) i am 20 and a virgin but i am scared that i will soon be found in a situation where i can't control my feelings anymore.. so was wondering is it wrong to not be a virgin later on when u enter into another new relationship???
2007-03-22 18:57:34 · 26 answers · asked by shrimpy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you do 'it' you you give a part of yourself away each time. The more ppl you do it with the more imcomplete you are and when you marry and your husband is a virgen you allow and expose to him to all those you have done it with. Not only that but you must consiter STD's. Also you must not rush it you still got a good life 2 live and alot of time to find the right one 2 give it 2. Also when you marry (or if) there is a whole thing about being pure, No itz not for goody girls the whole idea of virginz are ppl who have resisted 'it' long enough for the right man you marry (a commitment of true and powerful love something our world lackz) and give it to him your virginity is something very important and doing it b4 you marry you will most likey feel bad about. In any situation you must think of the future not just your desirez in the moment but what will happen 5? 10? 20? yearz from now? you want to give someone you truly love your whole not a spur of the moment
2007-03-22 19:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Stranger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing wrong with being a virigin. If you are scared that you won't be able to control your feelings you shouldn't have sex in the first place because you should already know your feelings and sex is a way of expressing them. As for the age thing, it depends on the person, I think in general women lose it anywhere from 14-21.
Also, as far as your personal beliefs go YOU have to figure that one out on YOUR OWN. If you feel like not being a virgin is a problem for you (new relationship or not) than don't have sex.
2007-03-23 02:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time to do it is when you feel ready and comfortable, not any set number of years but being an adult (over 18) is important. Sex is not an evil or bad thing when it is by mutual consent and wish, though some will wait till marriage, others do not need to. The import thing is you should NEVER be forced or pressured into it regardless of your age.
I have a daughter and will not allow her to have a sexual relationship till 18 - because after 18 she is an adult and entitled to make decisions on her own, I would prefer if she would only have sex with someone in a serious and stable relationship after 18 but it will be her choice as an adult. My ex-wife did not have sex till 23 and she supports my idea.
Honestly, most guys are horndogs especially in the younger years and I would not be fooled by the cheesy lines, if you both are adults, want it and both feel comfortable, it is ok. But you have to take the consequences, avoid pregnency and AIDS... Be smart and respect your own feeling above those of others... It is YOUR body.
Good luck
2007-03-23 02:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better. If you don't experience a relationship no matter how short, so to speak, then you won't have any experience to compare and improve.
If you are 20 years old, the virgin issue is behind you. Don't worry about that.
Besides, the man, or I guess woman, will certainly have some experience but will not tell you so.
In fact, your sexual experience is no one else's business unless you want to divulge it. And I would not divulge it to your next lover unless the time is right and you know the person really well.
Despite what others say, you do not want to tell you special friend everything. It usually hurts them which is no help to either of you.
The idea of being completely honest with your partner about past issues is just plain wrong. You do not want to hurt your special friend with your personal issues or history.
It is never the right time to share some things. Trust me, you can lose your best friend if you hurt their feelings or scare them unnecessarily.
2007-03-23 02:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-23 02:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly it is an ok age but stop and think about it because if you truly are not ready then it is not worth it. A man will tell you anything to get into your pants and once he is gone you can not get your virginity back. Hold on to your innocence and use your common sense because you are worth waiting for. Be strong and please don't give in if you are not sure about the situation or the man because blessings come with patience. It is never wrong to be a virgin especially with all the diseases and deadbeat dads that are floating around. THINK HARD ABOUT IT PLEASE
2007-03-23 02:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by KATRINA W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ripe for sex. However you have to consider the emotional consequences that go with having sex as it changes your being significantly. Some guys will be looking for virgins to marry, though this is becoming less and less important now. You might also have a problem of wanting to continously compare partners and this can cause serious problems.. But go ahead if you have to, not because he wants to, but that you would like to.. Byee
2007-03-23 02:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by 1967 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person, really. Some people wait until they find the right person, and that can (but not always) take a long time. Others lose their virginity in their early teen years.
Do what you want. If you feel you love someone and want to have sex with them and they agree, go for it.
2007-03-23 02:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by moochwaller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a 18 year old guy and i have had a few good relationships....umm i think its best to lose it to someone that you care about at the time...like your gf or bf...so just wait until you feel like you are ready.....i am not a virgin and i am not really upset i lost it, but i am glad that the girl i did it with was a girl that i cared for....you probably should wait for the right guy...lots of players out there....
2007-03-23 02:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you already waited 20 years why not wait til your married then it will be so much more special.
i did it for the first time a year ago i'm 18 now and a little after i did it i found the love of my life who i'm going to marry and now i wish i would've waited.
so dont do it just because you feel you have to if i was you i would wait cause i regret doing it.
2007-03-23 02:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by littlelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋