I have the basic situation of coming out of a long term relationship....Ive gotten over it, but found that I have been a bit of an introvert (which is not normal for me!) when it comes to guys lately. I think I just forgot how to approach. Any suggestions?
thanks!
2007-03-22 18:55:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you really enjoying doing? Dancing? Singing? Going to the gym?
I suggest picking up a hobby that actually takes you outdoors (if you don't already have one). Since you are extroverted by nature, I am sure meeting people will come naturally to you. Just go do something that involves other people.
2007-03-22 21:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Taharqa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first stop worrying. as for the how to approach, easy just be yourself and do not put any preasure on any new encounters.
by that i mean if you see a guy talk about the news or other current events etc 9no topics that a guy would not normally be interested in as a rule do not talk fashion, make up and celebrities) no preasure. if you are in a store pretend to need advice on a product (non grocery, technical gadget) the guy will if he likes you help you out if he knows about the item if he does not know about the item he may pretend to know about it and bulls**t his way through in an effort to impress you. or he may say i don't know i'll see if i can find you someone who works here, either of those two options would mean he likes you. if he says sorry i don't work here and dismisses you then he is ieither not interested or shy, shy he may go red. so start a conversation with him anyway. if he is not interested then nothing you do will change his mind so forget him and move on!
just try to be yourself as best you can, do not force yourself to be 100% as you were before or during the long term relationship. you say you have gotten over it, but if you are not 100% backto your old self yet then you probably are not 100% over the relationship.
give it time and plenty of it you will be back to normal in no time!
just make new friends and hope that one will turn to romance.
good luck!
2007-03-23 03:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very easy to become an introvert after a long relationship ends, but watch out because if u don't date, it can become a habit to be alone and before u know it many years can pass. Just do online dating, its easier. You can put your picture out there and write what you are looking for. Then meet guys for coffee first before commiting to an actual date, or try myspace.com . its easier to talk online first.
2007-03-23 02:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Miranda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see someone you are attracted to, smile, and flirt with him from afar. If he appears to be looking at you, then it is okay to smile and look back, but not openly stare, because that is a little weird.
Do you have friends that can introduce you to someone? Hang out, get back out there. Just start things off friendly at first, don't look desperate. Just think to yourself "I'm just looking for friends" and maybe one of those friends you meet will turn into something more...
Hope that helps. Let me know
2007-03-23 02:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by o0blackswan0o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get hold of some of your old friends that are not to fast and wont put you in a bad situation and you will be goood to go.and if your over 18 give me a email wadenc2bkk@yahoo bye alyeah iam 25
2007-03-23 02:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by east2west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - but being a guy in the same situation i could use any tips as well. Seem to have forgotten all the dating rules.
2007-03-23 01:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why is it so important to date around and impress a lot of guys? Don't you want real romance and companionship?
I suggest starting a friendship first or else, dating one man who really interests you. It is a waste of time to be going from one relationship to another or to be spreading yourself around.
Now, try being fun, entertaining, adventurous, intelligent, funny, responsible, attractive, a good cook, reliable, giving, considerate, the works. What you would look for in others is probably what they would look for in you. You want to attract the right people.
2007-03-23 02:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get gorgeous from head to toe, call up a friend and go out.
It's that simple.
Or if you're too nervous, go on a dating site. They're not as bad as everyone says, my sister met her partner on one.
2007-03-23 05:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the grand entrance --- roll over the hood of somebody's car, do some gymnast sort-of thing, hold your arms up, and they'll know.
2007-03-23 01:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best way would be to go out with your friends! meet people through your friends is an easy way to meet more people!
2007-03-23 01:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jordan T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋