2 weeks ago we had this amazing weekend. We had so much fun and just seemed so insync with each other, we spent most of the weekend together. The next week i was flying away for the week. He told me he would miss me. We talked some on the phone while I was away. Nothing seemed all that unusual. I flew back on Fri. He knew the time I was returning and I knew he was at work so I didn't call him when i got in...figured he'd call me when he got off work. At 7:30 he still hadn't called. I was hoping to see him that night so i called him...no answer...then he returns my call around 9 that night saying he was heading out with his roommate. I was disappointed. He asked if i wanted to hang out Sat I said yes, we hung out, it was fun. This week his calls were mostly texts, usually he calls. He hasn't asked about this weekend. I'm worried his feelings have changed. Do I talk to him about it? I don't want to scare him. (dating a little over 2 mths, in our mid-20's
2007-03-22 18:36:18 · 11 answers · asked by katiebeth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No we have not slept together. I forgot to mention that today I asked him about hanging out Monday and he said sure it sounds like fun. He did do the texting this week, I avoided calling him this week since he seemed weird. I just don't know whether to ask him about hanging out this weekend or just make plans of my own and act cool like I don't care. These two months i've let him do the chasing...i don't know if this is a test to see if i'm interested to see if i'll call...or if things got to intimate and he freaked out. I let him lead the relationship. i.e. let him do MOST of the calling and asking out. I do do some. But I don't want to freak him out. He hasn't dated much. We did get into that conversation the last time we were together...did that conversation freak him out? I didn't mention exes or anything. Just numbers. He seems like a really nice guy. I don't think he slept with anyone else. He called me yesterday and seemed nervous and happy to talk. it's weird.
2007-03-22 18:52:42 · update #1
These are small misunderstanding among lovers which may end up with unpleasent results. Hence talk it out with him and then both you will be happy.
2007-03-22 18:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the reason doesnt matter. He's old enough to realize that if something has changed that he should talk to you about it. He sounds immature and doesnt want to deal with the conflict. He texts you more often because it takes a whole lot less effort to text than to call. Trust me, you dont want a guy who always takes the easy way out. Times will change and you'll need someone thats in it for the long haul. Relationships are such hard work.
Read "He's Just NOt that into You" by Greg Behrendt and maybe the process to ween out the idiots wont be so painful next time. If most girls would just take a hint, they wouldnt spend so much time on one little nucklehead that didnt deserve them anyway. Good Luck. I'm 31 and I know how it is.
2007-03-23 01:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably cheated on you while you were away. The roommate line is a classic. He probably assumed you were out doing your thing and he then decided to do his.
I would bring it up and get some answer now and don't drag anything out in your life. Put this one in the experience locker and close it down as quickly as possible if he as cold feet.
2007-03-23 01:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him let him call you and then if he does not call he was just another guy for a weekend visit. It happens all the time we move to fast to soon. That's what they want and when we go along with it we can blame no one but ourselves. Be a little more cautious next time. Do not give yourself away so soon or easily. Respect yourself and keep your dignity and leave the player to play someone else.
2007-03-23 01:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by queenie one 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he felt things were getting too intimate too soon and is trying to put some distance between you. I suspect he is not ready for a committed relationship and thinks that is what you are looking for. Be careful, this could get very painful.
2007-03-23 01:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had experiences like that in the past, if you are looking for a serious long lasting relationship you want some one who doesn't expect you to be a mind reader or keep you guessing. Just keep looking till you find that person.
2007-03-23 01:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by parochial school graduate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have invested in the relationship, but he hasn't. He still wants to be one of the boys.
Tell him to grow up or give him the boot before he does (which sadly sounds like he is in the process of doing)
Good luck
2007-03-23 01:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by legendary_trev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already put out, he is trying to end it,,, if you haven't, then he is no longer interested at this time to try and get it. Boys are pigs,,, get use to it till you find a man.
2007-03-23 01:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young and single. Date several guys. This way he doesn't feel as if he's your only option. This really gets them.
2007-03-23 01:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have other things/people on his mind.
2007-03-23 01:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋