I'm an only girl with four brothers and my fiance has 3 brothers I would LOVE to have them all as groomsmen but i think 7 is too many(besides there aren't enough girls to match). I was thinking of having my 4 brothers be ushers but i don't want them to feel less important for not standing up there is there anything else that would make them feel special?! ages are 22, 17, 15, 13 if that helps...
2007-03-22 18:29:39 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
having uneven sides would be the easy fix but i was in the wedding party of a girl who got married in the same church i am going to and they said the girls on the brides side and boys on the grooms side has to be even.
Otherwise i wouldn't mind, just wondering if there were other tasks that they can do.
are there any websites with alternative options?!
2007-03-22 18:47:17 · update #1
ashley, i am going to assume you have a dad and don't need a brother to walk you down the aisle. if you don't have a dad have your eldest brother do that honor.
i have six brothers as does my groom, yep, six of them! each!
i had a maid of honor, and a bridesmaid, my groom, had a best man and a groomsman.
all the other brothers lined the church aisle and stood tall until i passed them on my father's arm. as we passed each brother he in turn fell in behind us and followed us down to the front of the church. they then stood in a semi-circle behind us as we were married.
it was a beautiful way to include them all and our photos are gorgeous. me and my men! well my girls as well, but everyone has always laughed and referred to our photos as
suze and her men.
so be daring and do something a little different, it worked for us!
good luck!
and by the way, the church has no right to tell you how to organize your wedding party. so tell them to mind their business on that.
2007-03-26 16:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by the quiet one 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if this makes it easier for you ... the 15 and 13 year olds are a little young to be full groomsmen. They would be considered junior groomsmen, technically. I would put them in charge of handing out programs to all the guests as they walked into the church.
As for the 17 year old, he could be an usher ... the usher's job is to escort the ladies to their seats on the respective side of the church (bride's side or groom's side).
The 22 year old could definitely be a groomsman and that would solve your problem ... now you'd only need 4 ladies on your side instead of 7. Just a side note as well ... I have seen weddings with 10-12 attendants on each side, so 7 in nothing girl!! If you would rather have all 7, then choose a few more ladies. Maybe your guy had a great girl he was close with??
2007-03-23 09:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first who said that the sides had to be even. Is that a church rule or something? Does the church have someone who is like the wedding director for all the weddings or something. I would ask again and find out the real deal about that. I don't like Church's who make crazy rules like that. Anyway, my fiance has one sister and one brother and both him and his brother where ushers at her wedding and they didn't feel left out at all. But, if you don't want them to be ushers, that's fine. The 13 year old is actually young enough to maybe be the ring bearer. I would talk to him about it. If he doesn't have any problems with it that's what I would do. I think you should sit down with each of them and ask them how they feel. I asked my sister what she wanted to do in my wedding. I was more that willing to make her a bridesmaid but she wanted to be my photographer, she's really good. So that's what she's going to be. You never know, one of them may be happier just running the sound or being your DJ at the reception or something like that. I'm sure that they would tell you the truth. Like my sister did, she said "I'm not wearing some ugly bridesmaid dress, I'll just take the pictures." I hadn't actually picked out the dresses at this time, that was just her way of saying that she'd rather take the pictures. Anyway, you get the point. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 16:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Well how many girls are there?
2. Then the older brothers should be the groomsmen (that is, if they want to be the groomsmen).
3. I would think that the groomsmen should be picked by your fiance and that his brothers has higher priority in being the groomsmen.
It's your wedding, you and your fiance should be the special ones, not your brothers. You shouldn't worry about it. Besides, being ages 13-22 they should be able to understand already. If anything, assign them important tasks... pictures, picking up stuff for you, being the greeter... etc.
2007-03-23 01:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the 17 & 22 year old be groomsmen, along with 2 of his brothers, let the 15 &13 year old & other brother be ushers, that way there all doing something special & feel apart of the wedding. That is if that matches up to your wedding party.
2007-03-23 01:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sides don't have to be even! and the boys don't all have to be on the grooms side either. There are a lot of options. Perhaps some of the brothers would *rather* be ushers, or perhaps they would be just as content sitting in the audience.
Our wedding is going to be even simply because we happened to each insist on 1 boy and 1 girl that had to be in our wedding (my brother and sister, his 2 best friends). We are having my sister and brother stand on my side and his friends stand on his side...
My thoughts are that if you do what will make you happy, and it just happens to be a little out of the ordinary, it will be that much more memorable!!
2007-03-23 18:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, the two sides don't have to be even. However, 15, 13, and 17 are too young to be groomsmen. Make them ushers.
2007-03-23 12:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a particularly charismatic brother he could be an MC. You could ask one of them to perform the ceremony. You can become an ordained minister online at http://www.ulc.net/ . You could have some of them stand on your side wearing colors that match your bridesmaids. You could have an unbalanced wedding party.... 2 guys walking with each girl or the best man walking by himself or with the dog or anything. It's your day. Be creative. You don't have to follow the rules exactly. My wedding party is mismatched because we only asked the people we truly wanted to be in our wedding party. We didn't ask extras to balance it out. My maid of honor will be walking by herself or possibly carrying the flower girl who is her daughter.
2007-03-23 01:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by kirby_669 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who had his sister on his groomsmen side. it was interesting..if you can incorporate that. have one of your brides maids switch? yeah sounds weird but it was neat. or pick 2 of his oldest bros and 2 of your oldest bros. the other two can be ushers and have the youngest a ring bearer or have one of them walk mom or gma down the isle.
2007-03-23 01:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Consi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was at a wedding that had more people standing on one side then the other, and it look fine the guy did not walk the girls down , that's all there were more guy and the pics still looked good. but most important is that it is your day and your fiance. my husband and i did what are family wanted and we hated are wedding so most important do what you want.
2007-03-23 01:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋