I was wondering how the first sexual experience will feel. My friend, a guy, said it's going to hurt ALOT, and he also said that you have to do it a couple of times and it'll feel better. Does that mean I won't like it the first, or second, or maybe even the third time? Will it hurt alot like he said? I'm SO scared to do it if it hurts. I can not take pain. Can someone pleeeeease answer this for me?
2007-03-22 18:17:58 · 10 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yeah honey i won't lie to you it does hurt . when he breaks your Hyman it will hurt some and you feel some pain , but being nervous and scared will only make your first experience worse .
so try to relax and enjoy the moment as much as possible.
the second time it still hurts some not as bad .the third time was OK for me. the important thing is to have some one who will be gentle and comforting and caring with you .and who will be slow and not rushed with you. i hope this helps.
2007-03-22 18:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls these days do feel like there is pain. BUT there is only pain if the guy hasn't been patient enough to wait until the girl is ready. This is the reason girls now say it hurts. They have sex too early with guys their age and young guys know NOTHING about women and rush so it hurts! The "myth" of the hymen breaking is exactly that . . . a myth. Many women don't have a hymen and most that do it's been broken long before they have sex the first time. If you've ridden a bike, done gymnastics, used a tampon etc you don't have to worry about the hymen stuff. The hymen is an EXTERNAL part of your vagina not inside as so may seem to think. The pain girls feel is penetration past the internal muscle which as I said earlier, only hurts when there hasn't been enough foreplay to prepare you and lubricate you. Too bad more guys don't learn something before they start messing around but their hormones tell them DO IT NOW! So they do! LOL If you have some foreplay so you can relax or you really love someone deeply it is not going to hurt because you'll be ready.
2007-03-23 01:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first... relax. You shouldn't be scared about your first time. For a lot of girls their first time hurts because they are popping their cherry and that's painful in that situation, BUT if you use tampons than your cherry has already been popped and it's not that painful.
As for sex hurting, it's really about the guys size... in most cases guy aren't huge and your first time won't be painful due to his size. My first time was with a very large guy and it hurt slightly at the beginning the first time, but after a minute or two it really didn't hurt at all.
So if you've used a tampon before chances are it's not going to be all that painful for you. If you're that scared just tell the guy that it's your first time and to take it slow. It sounds like that guy was just trying to scare you, and it seems he did a good job of that.
My only suggestion to you is that you make the first time be with someone that you wanna remember for the rest of your life as your first, because trust me you'll always remember your first. Just relax and don't be so nervous, it's really not bad at all, if it was why would we love it so much?? lol
2007-03-23 01:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first time only hurt for a little at the beginning. When you're nervous or scared, it's going to hurt more because you're expecting it and so aware of it. If you relax or you're comfortable with the person you're with (like I was) it's only a twinge. But then again, it depends on the individual because some girls have thicker hymens than others. If anything, use some personal lubricant.
2007-03-23 01:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by shere143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...what does he know, u asking a guy how a girl suppose to feel.....c'mon lol. is he trying to scare u or something??
anyway: yes there is a burning sensation before hand coupled with a slight pain. it all depends on how gentle the guy is, &how relaxed u are. Some females bleed a little, &others not at all.
It is said that it gets better genrally after the 3rd time, which also differs from female to female.
So key rules to that is: Take things slow, relax, &protection
......lol....(",)
2007-03-23 01:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, my first time didn't hurt at all, it actually felt good :) Then again when I had sex with my 3rd partner, it hurt so bad & took 3 tries to get it in. (but he was like 6" around!!)
So I'd say it depends on the guy... if it hurts, take it slow and make him stop if you're in too much pain.
2007-03-23 02:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it'll definitely hurt a lot, and the second and third time might hurt a little bit. It just hurts the most the first time.
I highly recommend doing "other" stuff before having sex, to loosen you up a bit. Stuff like fingering.
I was a lucky one, it didn't hurt me oooone single bit my first time. ;)
2007-03-23 01:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by o0o0o0o0o0o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It didn't hurt at all for me... my guy was very experienced and gentle and we had fooled around a lot (e.g. done a lot of "almost" but not quite), which I think might have prepared me physically, so to speak... there was blood, but no pain, really...
2007-03-23 01:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, it will not hurt if he takes it slow and he makes you feel comfortable. Just make sure you are ready and everything else will be fine.
2007-03-23 01:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Josie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are suffering from low esteem mom didnt care or
2007-03-23 01:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋