I getting married soon and I am still a virgin. What is the best way to lose my virginity...and i mean like what position and how it should happen....I am scared!
2007-03-22 18:12:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww. I am also a virgin and I'm waiting till my wedding night to have sex for the first time.
I just wanted to say congratulations for being strong enough to wait. A lot of people aren't. Good for you!!!
You should not think about it so much. You are going to make love to your new husband. You should just be thinking about how much you love him and how he is with you forever now... no matter what. Don't worry about the sex. It will come naturally. Everything will be alright. ♥
2007-03-22 18:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you have waited this long you should wait until the wedding night.
You must chill out and not be scared. Being scared makes being tense, which is no fun for anyone and will be painful.
There are many how to books .. but in a nutshell the missionary position is your friend, be rested, have a good but not large dinner, early evening is nice (say 9 or 10pm), make sure you have an hour or two to devote to this - start to finish to cuddle afterwards. have the lights down low or off, candles are nice, have a (1) glass of wine, have your husband pay lots of attention to you so you are relaxed but excited and lubricated. .. and if not .. wait for another day. no hurry.
if you must, you can buy lubricant, but you probably won't need it.
If you do it like that then there should be minimal to no pain and should be a great way to start off a timely marriage.
2007-03-23 01:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be cause fear is the mind killer and a dead mind is bad for sex. You do realize that there are depending on the rumors anywhere from 245 - 365+ sexual positions to use. And what effect do you want to achieve her face to face, side by side, man on top, would you like to be on top? You have to get into what fantasies you have for this night. Do you want to be in control or out of it?
Bottom line: A wedding night to a virgin is a discovery night that she shouldn't fear or be afraid off it is an opt for her to learn and set the tone on what both partners need and enjoy about sex. Plus, it is a time to realize that it only get's better from there cause you would have experience in trying different things and positions.
2007-03-23 01:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww that's so cute and sweet that you waited til your wedding night. I also wanna save sex for marriage. I don't have experience but I'm assuming that maybe the missionary position will be good for the first time. I say this because the guy is on top of you and he controls everything, you just lay there.
God luck:)
2007-03-23 01:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missionary is the best way to go. But i hate to burst your bubble but if it's your man's first time too chances are it's not gonna be an amazing experience. Guys first times are usually very quick.
I'd just stick to him on top, and your legs around his waist. If it's too painful for you, you could try top, but a lot of girls don't like to try that their first time. It's really up to you, but just keep it simple.
2007-03-23 01:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared because this is all new territory,so take it easy, have some wine,champagne,a Extra strength Tylenol.
You know, it will go fine and dandy.You are smart to wait.
so make it worth the wait, enjoy your time.Congrats.
2007-03-23 01:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thast a very silly question....Just wait for things to happen natural.....If ppl give you advise of how when where this and that and so...It would be all planned out form your side..Am sure you will haev agreat and emotional expirience... Wait for your present dont ask what it is yet....You will see its an mazing thing..and he will appreciate that wedding gift!!!!!!
2007-03-23 01:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Susana T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that all depends on you. you can either be scared or you can start to look forward to it. you love this guy enough to promise in front of god to spend the rest of your life with him and he loves you enough to do the same and wait for marrige...sounds like a relationship worth being excited about not scared. Don't worry about the sex, you will be fine
2007-03-23 01:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by savant365 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well missionary i would say. simple. after a while you'll find all kinds of ways to experience the beauty of sex. if you dont want just 1 position get the kama sutra book its really detailed.
2007-03-23 03:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by gansito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is somewhat crude but, you should get an adult toy and pleasure yourself slowly at your own pace till you have it fully inserted, find out how good it feels to have something inside if you know what I mean. It will make doing the real thing less scary and more enjoyable. Their is a thin wall inside that must pop, dont worry about a short discomfort, it will go away quick, when you are playing. It is not wrong to please yourself this way. Religion only talks it down as a control measure not a true doctrine.
2007-03-23 01:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋