is it them or me? is this a normal/typical guy or do i pick a weirdos/losers?

Question

i have little experience with guys. i wantto meet a normal NICE guy but i'm having trouble. i'm confused
Here's an example, is there something wrong with this guy? or is this NORMAL for how guys act? is this what i should expect from men?
Sometimes he will be flirtatious, give me full attention
other times he acts like he doesn't know me (before we ever got intimiate)
asks me if i have stds/if i'm "clean" during sex each time
will chat with me only if i initiate it (never blows me off) but he himself never initiates it
is "awkward" according to other people
seems really nervous around me in person when neither of us are drunk
admits "it's been a long time" in bed and other self-depriciating remark regarding small penis size (does this contribute to his personality?)
doesn't dress that fashionably or wear cologne
seems judgemental(?), and is a bit rude, thinks he is cooler than he is
was acting like he was doing me some favor talkin to me (so i no longer am talking to him..)

according to his friend, when he knew i liked him his reaction was like "eh" (like, indifference, or apathy), which his friend said was sort of his reaction to a lot of things
and, this friend also said he was a "confused person" whatever that means...

Is this NORMAL? or did i get mixed up with some nut with baggage??

(and yeah yeah i know i should never have gone that far with this guy...i know now...that's why it's over)

Answer 1

Sounds like kind of a loser to me. The lack of fashion etc is not important, but how he treats you is. Being indifferent and running hot & cold with you is just unacceptable. He may have some attachment issues or he may just not have been that into you.

Next time hold out for a guy who really treats you well. You deserve it!

Answer 2

sounds like you could do a lot better. Keep looking, you'll find someone right for you.