Well, I feel so sad all the time for no reason... And at home ( I live with my great grandma) My great grandma is criticizing me all the time and saying I'm not normal and I'm weird and Strange. Also, she criticizes my friends on how they talk, look, eat, and other stuff. Which makes it worse. My great grandma has rarely EVER said anything nice to me. I don't want to live with her but if I don't I'll have to leave my friends, school, and more. I'm so sad all the time. what should I do?
2007-03-22 18:09:51 · 10 answers · asked by Me ^^ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way, I'm 11, She's 79. And She criticizes my music too. and everything about me...
2007-03-22 18:17:13 · update #1
Have a talk with your great grandmother. Tell her that she means the world to you - and when she is critical it hurts your feelings.... even more so, because you do love her and do care about her, which makes the hurt/pain that much worse.
Why put it that way? Because then she will not think you are criticizing HER. See how that works?
You are probably an ultra sensitive person. And that's a cool thing. Just as much as you experience life's low/sad times, you probably experience joyful and happy times more than the average person, too.
Note that emotions can also be hormonal. During certain stages of life, your emotions are ruled by your hormones as your body changes. THIS IS NORMAL.
See a doctor to be sure your chemical/hormonal levels are in balance.
Eat healthy, get decent sleep (sleep deprivation leads to depression), get some sunshine (we need sun exposure to be happy), avoid dark rooms, wear happy and bright colors, smile --- just smiling makes you feel upbeat. Listen to upbeat music, read upbeat books. Surround yourself with happy people and positive attitudes..... get a mentor, talk to a teacher or counselor, go do some volunteer work at a children's hospital or a senior center - they will always be happy to see you. Get a pet. Turn your energy into something positive for yourself.
Your great grandmother may or may not hear you when you talk to her (sometimes the older people get, the more stuck in their ways of behavior and they can't change)......however YOU CAN CHANGE - take your own happiness into your own hands. Be a duck - let her negativity roll off your back (it will more, if you do all the above as I mentioned - you will be in control then of all the rest of your happy and positive influences).
Do something for yourself everyday that makes you happy - it can be as simple as a walk in the park, or a moment of meditation, or listening to some positive thinking CDs. The more you put positivity into your life, the negative stuff won't matter as much and your energy will be so contageous that maybe even your great grandmother will 'catch the happy fever,' too.
:)
2007-03-22 18:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by The Answer Monster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like your great grandmother is in need of some LOVE! A person lacking and craving love can sometimes lash out at the unsuspecting victim. When you are around a happy person, naturally for some reason, you feel happy too! Even though you don't feel like it sometimes, you can start this chain reaction my just smiling. Eventually, your great grandmother can't help but smile with you. Love is always reciprocal when given in huge amounts! Talk to her about her life, her past, her hobbies. Bond with your family, they love you very much even if they don't express it correctly. In life, as long as there is time, there is always a way to change and improve! Don't ever give up!
2007-03-25 00:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that makes you feel good about yourself, regardless of the negative comments at home. You could volunteer at a hospital or nursing home and believe me the patients will shower you with praise. You could participate in a hobby like art classes, pottery classes, or group theater, and find some self worth there. You could join a book discussion club where others would make you feel good about your insight.
Compliments are made of rubber..... the more of them you give, the more of them that will bounce back to you. You could even try it on your granny and see what happens.
I'm sorry you don't get positive reinforcement at home, because you should. But you can control how you feel about yourself if you just look within yourself and appreciate who you are.
2007-03-22 18:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to think positive and go out to meet people more often than to stay at home with your grandma. At her age, she might seem alittle grumpy but try to understand that she is grumbling for your own good. Old folks are like that. Just ignore them if you can't take it. Go and do your own stuff and listen to music which you love. Cultivate a hobby that will make you happy and maybe bring a smile to your face. Good luck.
2007-03-22 18:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once some one told me that no one can make you mad or sad, no one can own your feelings. You control your emotions and you can choose to be happy. If you believe this, then you will feel such a relief, in control and free. I know it's easier said then done but if things get harder just remember, you are not alone. Allot of us have been through similar situations and we are always here to help.I wish you the best!
2007-03-22 18:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try taking to a counselor or psychologist at school. So much negativity at home is probably what is making you feel the way you do. They can probably give you some good coping skills to get you though these rough times. Good luck
2007-03-22 18:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by mother of Bridezilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandma sounds real old and set in her ways. Their is nothing wrong with moving from schools. Eventually you will grow apart from your friends and live your life. Besides you can always call or email them. Save your sanity and whats left of your self esteem. Because depression and emtional abuse are not good. Besides if they are truly your friends they will understand why you left.
2007-03-22 18:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by another journey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do! My boyfriend took a merchandising in which he is figuring out of state for approximately 4 months....it is already been one month, 3 extra to head ;( B.Q: Yes, I simplest consume as soon as an afternoon...
2016-09-05 12:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by rosebeckjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel these feelings often myself.
The only thing that works for me is time. Just blow away as much steam as I can, and in time, I calm down some.
I've never found anything else that works...
-Amos
2007-03-22 18:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Amos E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe your just ugly?
2007-03-25 07:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by deleted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋