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Problem with mom.

I'm already 30+, am a graduate. I've got to know this guy whom I'm interested in, met him 2 yrs ago. Mom knows this guy as well. Recenly, I've been chatting with him at night daily... we're not a couple (even though i'm not sure whether we are).

Mom found out that I'm chatting with this guy, and she got angry and forbit me from even CHATTING. What's wrong with talking to someone? I've always been a good gal at home. She says he's a 'low-class' person and we're not supposed to have anything to do with these people. I mean, c'mon... we're all humans, we're all adults. I think she sense that I like him. She has been very unreasonable these days. I'm even thinking of moving out for some freedom.

Is she too much? What can I do?

2007-03-22 18:01:44 · 11 answers · asked by AL75 3 in Family & Relationships Family

11 answers

your mom is overreacting to a guy who she is judging to harshly. and even if she doesn't like him it is your life, you are an adult now, she can't tell you what to do. You should talk to her about that, and how its your life, etc. But not in a way where you come off as ungrateful for what she has done for you, etc. good luck

2007-03-22 18:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by jackichanrules13 2 · 0 0

There is a reason your mother doesn't want you to talk to this man and you need to find out what is behind her disappointment. Life is not easy. Your Mom has lived a little more than you have. Learn from her mistakes and listen to her advise. Your Mom wants whats best for you. One day when you have a daughter you will understand. You are still living at home at 30+ thank Mom for letting you stay at home that long and realize the grass is not always greener on the other side.

2007-03-23 01:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She is too much. You should talk it out with her and see what is bothering her so much about this relationship. She might have had this experience before and she doesn't want you to make the same mistake. Or she feels like she's losing her daughter to someone. Either way, ask her why she's acting this way. She may have a valid reason. But if anything, you can move out and do your own thing. It's liberating!

2007-03-23 01:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by shere143 3 · 0 0

you are old enough to do as you please. do you help pay bills? if so, tell her to mind her own biz!! even if you don't help pay bills, i can see if you are like 18 or 19,20 but at your age the "my house, my rules" doesn't seem to apply any more. my husband, son and mother all live in the same house, we are all on the lease. we pay 2/3 of all bills and she 1/3 and we do not tell each other what to do. we will make suggestions to each other but thats it. you need to let her know she can't "forbid" you to do anything. that she can give you her opinion and hope you take her advice, but thats it. and who is she to say he is low-class? what does she know about him? if she is refering to the fact that he meets women on-line then isn't she saying you are low-class too? i would lay down the law that you can and will do whatever you want. she lost the right to set rules for you along time ago!!

2007-03-23 01:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by heather l 4 · 0 0

chatting is fine but too much is always bad(chatting at nights),
at this age it is common to look for a person to share with but
it is not desirable out of marriage even to much of chatting bcoz u r getting attached to him psychologically.if u really love him get engaged with him, but one thing do you feel you can sustain with him in all times and is he the right match for you.

ask your parents to get u married and be happy then everything will be happy

2007-03-23 01:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0 0

30+ and still living at home? Time to get out from under your momma's apron and out on your own, youneed to grow up and get your own life, take care of yourself, get your own place. You are way overdue to leave the nest. And when you are out on your own, it won't be her business anymore, although she will still think it is-mothers will always drive you nuts. Maybe she's afraid of losing control over you and that you will finally grow up and leave? She'll have to get over that, before you die an old maid.

2007-03-23 01:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by lizzy 6 · 0 0

All parents want the best for their children. You can move out, but just remember your mom love cannot be replaced by anyone.

2007-03-23 02:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0 0

your thirty years old. time to get ur own life! make ur own decisions and learn ur own lessons. ur mom shouldnt be telling you who to talk to at 30+! im sixteen and i dont even let my mom forbid me from talking to someone. if i can be my own judge of people and decide who to hang out with responsibly, im sure you can too.

2007-03-23 01:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kmtz13 1 · 0 0

It sounds as if you ought to move out. You will not be able to live as an adult under these conditions.

2007-03-23 01:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1 0

If you need more freedom kindly tell your mom you need to live on your own. Live your life and enjoy it.

2007-03-23 01:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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