So I'm 17. Never been asked out on a date. Never been kissed. This wouldn't be such a big issue for me were I not a hopeless romantic. My question is, why is it that the smart, girl-next-door types are so often in my position?
2007-03-22 17:51:22 · 18 answers · asked by kmac989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the truth is that hopeless romantics are not sought after other than by other romantics like themselves since there is no benefit of romance to woo your sweetheart or to capture your life partner. Since children are sexually active at an early age romance is not required, marriage is considered temporary and no qualifications are necessary to participate and if you do not like it we have No Fault Divorce. After two marriages ending in divorce the romance was not effective or appreciated as they only intended to stay long enough to entitle themselves to a share of funds and benefits that had already been earned and a percentage of the future. Not bad for just saying I do, even if done in a drive thru window in Las Vegas. There is virtually no reason to be a hopeless romantic anymore and people like us that find a glowing, warm and calm feeling of Love and Committment during the periods of affection or events that are designed by one or the other to give to their partner as a gift to participate and enjoy and is a very special out of the ordinary for no reason event that captures the heart of your partner cracks it open and pours Love inside until it is full and then carefully places it back where it belongs until the next event. This attention creates an atosphere of Specialty as you are receiving something that there is no reason for or requirement to do making it an act of pure love. I can think of no other reason to put such effort into that kind of specialty. To answer your question, I would guess that nice people finish last. Hopeless romantics are probably in the last of the last. If it is any comfort to you, from what I see in life so far, there is not all that many nice people around so the crowd will be gone when we get there but if you would like, I will be happy to get on my white stallion, wearing a loin cloth, ride by and give you a lift and we can enjoy the ride in the night with the wind filling our hair and the warm glow of our roles as romantics and we could perform it while riding into the full moon that began with the closing of a beautiful sunset from a beach where you and I met to begin our fianle and together we could cross the finish and everyone that ran and scramble through life could watch as we enjoy our affliction and share with one another the romance of our finish in Life while all the other finishers of life watch on and when we cross the finish line you would share a long compassionate kiss with me and open our hearts so we can feel the warmth and love that comes from sharing the gifts we were blessed with and it would be my pleasure at the finish line to accompany you anywhere you wish and bask in your beauty for as long as you allow and treat you with romance until we part, if ever.
Do not worry about the little things when you possess a gift that others do not see or see no value in. The answer above is long and it was my pleasure to share a vision with you and give you a lift to destiny as it does not really matter when we cross the finish line, only that we cross and if you are last I would be honored to escourt you across with pride. Smile and Love and Live and leave the little things where they are. We have a date if you accept.
2007-03-22 19:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by missionaryplus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT WORRY. There is nothing wrong with you.... and you have much to be proud of being a nice, sweet, romantic and smart girl! STAY TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE AND DON'T CHANGE!
Trust me on this. This is the kind of girl most guys (who are worth anything) really want for a good, solid, healthy relationship. You, in essence are the kind of girl guys want to bring home 'to meet mom.'
Be patient. Instead of being blue about being romantic and being alone...... no need to isolate yourself. Exercise that romantic mode of yours and TREAT YOURSELF to a nice dinner, or rent some romantic movies, buy yourself some flowers at the market to brighten your room. No need to wait on a guy for these things. Not only will this empower you as a young woman to be self-loving, confident and mature, but when the right romantic guy comes along to date you, you will be even more self-assured and wonderful.
And don't forget... the more you work on your self-esteem, your intelligence and like yourself, the more self-respect you develop (this is a good thing). Guys actually like this - they don't want needy/clingy/insecure girls anyway.
So you're already great - you're just working on becoming the ultimate woman! :)
Stay strong, stay true to your heart. You're going to be fine! Just remember that special moments in your life are truly worth waiting for. And that 'first date' or that 'first kiss' is going to be just that much more special!!
2007-03-23 01:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by The Answer Monster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... God no. I am 17 and I love the nice girls. I can not date a girl that doesn't have a heart of gold. You will find that a heart of gold is the most important attribute to have. I find if a girl lacks in the are of looks, but is extremely nice and romantic, she is more beautiful than a physically pretty girl.
2007-03-23 00:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by llllllllll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are 17! No worries. Enjoy you're teenage years...they're almost up. Hang out with friends. Don't worry about guys right now. I really didn't start dating till I was right out of high school. Then everything kinda fell into place. I wish I had those simpler days back. It's rough out there, girl! You may have to kiss many frogs to get to your prince. Hold out as long as you can. It's a jungle out there!
2007-03-23 01:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by dutchess81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand your position. Like you i am 17 and with out a boyfriend, but don't let it rule your life. be empowered that you don't need a boy to make your self feel good. the right one will come along, who knows maybe hes the same as you are. try looking at all types of guys
2007-03-23 01:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by A Whisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is something for ya!
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Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten
apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.So the apples at the
top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave
enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
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other than that, you can be nice but not TOOO NICE. girl-next door are not so bad but most guys go for adventure and excitement (ie: sports, fast cars) so they like the b8tch-across-the street types. just wait for that guy - you share things in common with ie: sentimental, loving, caring ones. good luck!!
2007-03-23 01:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by simple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, the nice girls always get great guys. sometimes it takes the guys alittle longer than we'd like to figure out that they NEED us, but they always do. i didn't go on my first "date" untill i was 18 almost 19 years old. now i'm engaged to the greatest man i've ever met (and it only took him 8 yrs. to look at me more like he did every other girl around)
2007-03-23 01:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by rickys_lil_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must continue to be who you are no matter what,you will in time bring positive energy into your life you are just feeling sorry for yourself for now.Keep a straight shooter spirit and
no head games,and time will pay you back someday soon.
Yes, sometimes we are too nice.
2007-03-23 00:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
X might be the best product in the market. But if no effort is spent in advertising it, no one would come to know how great it is or even know that it ever existed. Go figure ^.-
2007-03-23 01:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Gavin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys your age are normally pretty stupid when it comes to finding a girl. I'm 26 now, so I can say that. Just be patient, your time will come.
2007-03-23 01:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Brian D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋