am getting married in the next 4 weeks...I am looking forward to it soo much! I am in love with the most incredible man ever anyways...I have never had sex...I have heard that it hurts like hell...Pretty much I am asking what is the best way to lose my virginity on my wedding night? And should I bring anything for pain or bleeding? Pretty much I am clueless...Can someone please help me!!!!
2007-03-22 17:48:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
PLEASE stop listening to horror stories.
It is NOT painful.
What you need is lubrication. You may not produce as much as you normally would since you will be nervous. So go by some Astroglide, it's under $10.
When you get to the point where you both think you're ready, have your hubby insert his penis until you tell him to stop. The muscles may need to relax a little & stretch so he needs to do it in little increments until he can be inside you all the way.
Don't expect this to be the be-all-end-all of sex. It's rarely "the bomb" the first time. It will take you some practice to learn what it is you like, what you don't like & what will get you to the point of climax.
It is one of God's greatest gifts.
2007-03-22 18:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain and bleeding that most people think of with having sex for the first time comes from rupturing the hymen. Most women today have already ruptured their hymen. It can happen from bike riding, horseback riding, tampon use, lots of different things.
The first time can still be uncomfortable but is usually not painful. Have a drink or two with dinner to help you relax. Ask your hubby to take it slow. Enjoy exploring each others body and take your time. If you relax and take it slow you will soon discover that any discomfort fades and pleasure takes over.
I was a virgin on my wedding night almost 28 years ago. My husband was a well. We have learned alot together and from each other. I have never regretted saving myself for him and I have never regretted being faithful.
2007-03-23 01:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by debwils_4kids 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hurts like hell? I think that's a bit exagerated. If it were that bad, women would never get pregnant. It may sting the first time, like a papercut, and you might spot a bit, but it's nothing a panty liner can't handle and it won't last. It shouldn't hurt though. If he's hurting you, gently tell him what he's doing doesn't feel good and change positions, try something else. If it makes you feel better, bring some ibuprofen and a couple of thin pantyliners, but seriously, it's not as bad as you seem tohave been told. You've got nothing to worry about.
2007-03-23 00:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just relax...the more relaxed you are the better it will be. i bleed when i lost mine but you may not so you may want to take precautions just in case, like a towel underneath you. (they may make you pay for the sheets on the hotel bed if you bleed on them since if you get blood on anything fabric from a hotel they cant use it any more....) but most importantly, just RELAX! the more relaxed you are, the less it will hurt. he is the man of your dreams, think of how happy you are to be married to him, and that should calm you right down! congrats honey!
2007-03-23 00:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let things happen. It can be uncomfortable, but nothing too bad. If you are worried, perhaps have a glass of wine or two during dinner that night. Don't get drunk, but the wine will help your body relax. If you are stress and tensed up, you will not enjoy the experience.
2007-03-23 00:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats!
hey, you'll be w/ the most incredible man of ur life so , nothing to fear about,.....enjoy, condition your mind and body that the coming moments will the most unforgetable happy moments of your life as a woman giving the best gift to your husband: yourself, the whole of you, inside and out...as what others says: relax, enjoy n .............. feel the pleasure (as the pressure gets on\.... he he he, just kidding!) :)
2007-03-23 06:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by candee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... no i don't think u need anything 4 bleeding unless u want 2 or something. but enjoy it and maybe ur soon2be - husband
could give u a few tips?! lol
oh ya and congrats!!
2007-03-23 00:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Love is you. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do not go to a place were there is a beach. It will feel more sore. You will not bleed like you think. It is minimal
2007-03-23 00:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your man...tell him if it hurts..take your time ..both of you.....remember a shower is a good thing...when you are finished....try having a drink or two before retiring to your honeymoon suite..may help with the pain/discomfort...
good luck
wishing you a long happy marriage
2007-03-23 00:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by bluesharpman_642000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax. It is going to be a romantic night and I am sure your husband will take care of you and make it as painless as possible.
2007-03-23 00:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋