It seems like at least once a week my boyfriend asks if I'm losing interest or becoming bored with the relationship. I feel badly because that means I'm showing signals thats making him think that! More importantly....
why does he keep asking when I tell him I love him with all my heart and I love spending time with him? How do I let him know he's my one and only?
2007-03-22 17:41:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never thought he could be feeling that way...that hurts
2007-03-22 17:50:15 · update #1
Have you talked tohim about why he so frequently doubts you? Perhaps he's just afraid that his fairy tale seems too good to be true and he's waiting for the let down. Has he been through a lot of rough relationships? a bad break up? a bad family life? There is always a reason when one doubts being loved. The best thing you can do is know why he does, and then be a constant reassurance to him, even assuring him that you understand why he might doubt, but that you are still his one and only. Patience and time is most likely what it will take to convince him that it's true.
2007-03-22 17:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't fret, sis! you see, your boyfriend might be asking you the same question because he just wants to make sure that he is making you happy in the best possible way he could, that he is loving you the way you want to be loved. it does not necessarily mean that you are sending signals that you are bored with him. you just said that you love spending time with him. however, there is also a counter argument on this. i suggetst that the next time he asks you that question, answer with all honesty that you are not bored. then, ask him the reason for his asking you the question. you see, it can also be that he is the one getting bored (although i hope he does not). if he gives you a not-so-good-to-hear answer (i.e., "i'm bored") don't be angry. consider the reasons for his feeling that way. you may ask yourself questions like how many times a week do you see each other, how much time do you spend together, what are the activities that you do, have those acivities become routinary? there are a lot more questions but just be sure to answer them honestly and to be prepared to do what would be best. in all, just remember that we all have differences and we have to know how to work around those differences for a more fruitful, meaningful and lasting relationship with others.
2007-03-23 01:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bernadeth B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing something new and interesting. Show through your actions that you care, they speak louder than words. It may also be that he's becoming bored in the relationship as well, and is looking for some validation that you feel it too. Sometimes relationships become stagnant. If that's the case - and he may be picking up on it while you don't - change things around a little.
2007-03-23 00:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you but he might be the one losing interest or becoming bored. I've learned that partners in relationships become insecure of things that they themselves are feeling or have done. Just asking where these questions are coming from, and if you're happy with the answer, tell him not to ask you that again.
2007-03-23 00:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have you asked why he thinks your losing interest? My suggestion would be to take out some time for the two of you and basically spend as much time with him as possible. make a nice meal for him or make or buy him a gift or a card that lets him know that he is the one. It may seem kinda corny but it sounds like he needs some kind of reassurance.
2007-03-23 00:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only reason i could think of is that if you are spending time with other guys or that he is insecure. he is thinking that maybe he is not good enough for you and you will realize that soon and leave him for someone better. i would just show him how much i know him and how much i cared by some action to prove that. it could be anything, but something to show that you really care and you really know him and love him with all your heart.
2007-03-23 00:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be blunt next time he ask. Say why ? Do you want me to be boed with you and leave? Then stop asking me, im going to get mad. If your that insecure then we should break up.
That should fix that problem, if it dont, you dont want to be with a whiney insecure guy all your life do you? They usually become jealious after marriage and it will end anyway! Challenge his insecurity now or it will only get worse.
2007-03-23 00:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people ask these questions because they are immature and insecure. Sometimes they ask them because they like to hear the answer. Sometimes because they are bored out of their socks and just don't know what else to say.
2007-03-23 00:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he really likes you and just wants to make sure he's keeping you happy. Just keep reminding him that he makes you happy and he's the only guy for you! What a lucky girl you are!!
2007-03-23 00:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kim H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's the one getting bored... or he's just insecure... talk to him and ask why he's asking you that all the time.
Tell him to be honest!
2007-03-23 00:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋