I have know this girl sense aug. 14 of 05'! We dated a few times in sept. of that year! Then for some reason of that year in october we stopped talking! And she met another guy and they became gf and bf the 16th of oct. of 05! She finally decided to contact me again out of know where on aug. 28 of 2006! And we have been together secretly ever sense! I Love her and she loves me but she also loves this other guy! He has a tendance sometimes to be grumpy when he gets home rom work so they'll get in fights! And in those fights sometimes he'll grab her and sometimes push her back! In grabbing her he bruises her!And even once he punched her in the chest!I When i heard that i really wanted to kick the guys ***! but she told me not to do anything! I just don't get why she is still with him! She says she dosen't have an emotional attraction to him but a physical attraction!Which totally confused me! But she said she loves me with both an emotional and physical one! What should i do or tell her?
2007-03-22 17:34:20 · 5 answers · asked by slie930 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear of your predicament but I think there are some major areas of which you should analyze your situation.
1) You are in love with her ,if she really truly loves you she would have left him.
2) If the other guy is abusive ,she needs to get away from him ASAP. Don't wait for the right time for it will never come. I fear if you waited any longer, something really bad would happen and there is no point in crying over split milk after that.
3) She mentioned she loved you with both emotional and physical attraction, i feel she shouldn't have any issues leaving the other guy if its merely a physical attraction.
From the write out , you seem like you are stuck in between a love triangle and I feel its about time you DECIDE what is it that you want out of this relationship and where you want this to head. Don't short change yourself in the name of love...
You are no different than anyone of us here and you deserve the best ..in this case happiness and clarity...
Talk to her... really talk to her and express your hurt and how disappointed you are with the current state of affair.Tell her how you want this relationship to be and how in love you are with her. From her reaction, I guess you can conclude if this girl truly loves you and if you should proceed further.
At the end of the day my friend, never allow anyone to ever take you for granted. Once that happens , there is no turning back unless you do something about it.
hope i hadnt offended you with my thought...
Cheers
2007-03-22 17:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really loved you she wouldn't be seeing you both, and do you really want to be with someone who can be in a relationship with someone secretly? Who's to say if she did leave him and you guys got together she wouldn't secretly see him or someone else for the physical side of it? I think you should tell her until she breaks things off with him and proves that she can be committed to you and only you that you can't continue seeing her.
2007-03-23 00:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to make a choice right now, and that you refuse to be her "nice guy" while she choses to get hurt by the "bad guy". It sounds like you are being used by her to feel loved, but she does not want to give you her whole self in return. You deserve better, and you better get rid of this one before her boyfriend comes knocking on your door.
2007-03-23 00:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, that really is confusing. anyway, i think you have to let go of that girl. you see, if she really loves you, why would she still be involved with another man? and to think that, according to your story, he hurts her. it really sounds that it is you she is physically attracted to. now, don't get me wrong. i would not want you to just believe me and dump her (that would be impossible for you since you said you love her). i suggest you talk to her and seriously tell her how you feel. tell her of your confusion. and then ask her if she needs time to sort things out for herself, to clearly understand what she really feels for you and for the other guy. if she needs time (personally, i think she does), then let her have time to think things over. honestly, it really is unfair not only for you but also for the other guy to be in this kind of situation where you are actually not sure where you stand.
good luck!
2007-03-23 00:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bernadeth B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2007-03-23 00:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋