He always told me that because of his ex-gf, he lost his self steem & confident. I do love him & i want him to be happy & I want to him to forget his bad past. Sometimes I am afraid to ask coz i might recall his ex-g.f. We have had fight coz of wrong question I had. I need some advise
2007-03-22 17:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by lani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MAIN WORD OF ADVICE: you are NOT responsible for fixing your boyfriend's problems -- NO ONE has the power to completely fix someone else. it sounds like he has some emotional baggage (perhaps from his ex?), but there is NOTHING you can do to make him get over it -- he has to solve this on his own. Be supportive, be loving, be complementary, but don't work yourself up over it. You are doing the best you can, and he's VERY lucky to have such a great girl. :)
2007-03-22 17:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by dietcokeaddict 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really sounds like you and him might need to sit down and talk about this. Listen and be supportive of him. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then he at least needs to talk to a psychologist or therapist.
If this is constantly an issue for you two, then he's probably not ready to be in a relationship, especially if he broke up with his ex-girlfriend recently.
2007-03-22 17:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap him and tell him to wake up!! Who cares about how bad his past was...he has to move on with his life. And btw he's being really selfish for making u worry about him like that. Oh and sry if I've offended u in any way.
2007-03-22 17:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to man up. As long as he's not crying or whinning i don't see a problem some guy's can just be a little quiet thats not bad. Tell him your attracted to manly men, some how slip it out if he does something tuff
2007-03-22 17:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and talk to him...my ex was the same way...but i was his first gf, he had no self confidence cause he felt that people put him down all the time. Just encourage him all that you can
2007-03-22 17:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kels 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
discover somebody else to prepare on. he will purely fill you out, to verify if he can take you or no longer. save him in suspense. That way in case you and him ever get to the element the place you ought to take care of your self, against him, he will think of two times. Plus in case you truthfully harm him it is going to certainly result his ego and beneficial the relationship.
2016-12-15 06:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by bustamante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man with low self-esteem and no self-confidence will not achieve much. He's likely to be chronically underemployed or at least underpaid. He's likely to be a poor athlete and end up fat and lazy. Dump him now before he brings you down with him!
2007-03-22 17:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by nondescript 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He sounds like he needs a therapist.............too much baggage. Let him sort his stuff out and you need to be happy and think about moving forward.............without him.
2007-03-22 18:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HiM THERE IS ENOUGH HATE IN THE WORLD AND THERE IS NOT NEED FOR HIM TO BE GOING AROUND HATING HIMSELF. you cannot punish yourself for something that happened, that wasnt your fault.
2007-03-22 17:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is sexy to you constantly. also, i would recomend you take him to a therapist that can teach him how to find confidence within himself.
2007-03-22 17:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋