What do I need to do?

Question

This question is not as long as it seems, I just really need advice. It will seem long because there is a letter on the end (I have not sent it), which will be explained.

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say this message that's below to her, but I couldn't remember. All my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said ok, I get the point, you don't

have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around. Then I left. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. This is what I was going to say to her, but now I'll just write it to her and try to forget her.

From the moment we stopped talking, I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've worked on those things to improve myself. A special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. I miss when we used to talk and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I really care about you and like I said, you're special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END) Her 17th b-day is in one week. I'm 17 as well.

Answer 1

aww, now you make me feel bad about my situation w/ this guy. even though he did shoot my opinion and me down.. anyhow, eleven months?! wow, you shouldn't be wasting your time on this girl if she's giving you the cold shoulder for no reason (you clearly didn't tells us what happened between you two anyways...) but if you did screw up, take time and suck up your boyish pride and apologize. my certain guy has apologized to me when i was alone & walking to class. he pretty much said, "i'm sorry for being an **** about your religious beliefs. I'm really sorry." I was still mad @ him but he kept on trying to look into my eyes... anyhow, i like him but cant because my friend likes him also, but she has "seniority" anyhow... maybe she can't like you anymore. maybe her friend is being a ***** to her for you liking her. or maybe its time for you to move on, 11 months... wow. you don't give up, do you? well give it one last try, there's always hope, and if not, she's not worth your effort. and if she's hurting you, tell me her name and adress, i'll call in a few favors. ^.^ j.k

Answer 2

Maybe she's deaf. Girls can be jerks sometimes. They see a guy knocking themselves out for them, and they just ignore them.

Just don't sound desperate. Show her you have good intentions., and try not to sound like you are blaming her for anything. If anything else, try doing what you did to get her attention in the first place. If she still doesn't respond, screw it. If she wants to play games, fine. She'll have to learn the hard way to appreciate someone good, by being with someone who is bad to her.

Answer 3

go for it , write her the letter and give it to her.
she'll really think about everything after she reads it , i pretended that i was in that situation and got that letter , i would for-sure have written back and became friends with you again , but step by step.
good luck with her!
just go for everything.
you only have one life , live it!!

Answer 4

dont cry over someone who isnt willing to cry over you.

she seems to be over you.... no use waiting and hurting for nothing.

move on. be strong.
good luck.

Answer 5

you dont get it do you? she wants nothing to do with you. just stop it and leave her alone.