Okay, so what's wrong with me?

Question

Yes, I know I need to do some actual hard research into this, but I'm really wondering if anyone else'll come across this and have an answer for me.
I've been depressed before, and I know what that feels like. This doesn't feel the same. I'm pretty happy during the day - at school, with my friends - but most nights when I come home, something changes. Sometimes I'm fine, but what's been happening more and more frequently is, some random thing will trigger a horrible depressed mood. I usually end up sobbing most nights of the week.
Since yeah, I laugh and I'm definitely not depressed like this during the day, I'm wondering if it has to do with night time...
Anyway, I'm just annoyed and confused at this right now, so really, any input whatsoever would be great. Thanks. :)

I enjoy time by myself much more than the company of others, usually. Most times, it's a relief to get home after school - I love my friends, but I need to get away from people after six hours with them. So...sorry, not sure that's the best route to take. Very logical idea, though. I'll look into it.

Answer 1

All right... First of all, I have had similar feelings and I am so sorry that you are going though this. Now, I don't think that there is one specific thing that is making you feel worse at night. My best guess is that there are a combination of factors. One thing could be is that you have a certain amount of energy you can spend being happy and by the time it becomes night, you have just used it all up. Also, as strange as it seems (I didn't really believe it until I started noticing it was true for me), whether or not there is sunlight makes a significant difference in mood. I'm also guessing it has to do with what you are doing. Consider why you can function better at school and with friends. Perhaps you are better at pretending that nothing is wrong when you are with them and are really good at covering it up, but at home you can go and cry. Or perhaps you are really doing better when you are in those situations and there is something about being home that makes you sad. Knowing which of those options (or a combination or a third) seems to be the most true for you will help you come up with a strategy to combat your feelings. Take care of yourself. Do some soul searching. And if you aren't able to solve it yourself, then don't be afraid to reach out to someone else, whether it be a close friend, a family member, a teacher, a religious leader, a psychologist – or someone else you can trust. Your mental health and how you feel affects your life probably more than you realize, and it's essential to take care of. Good luck!

Answer 2

Being social with people gets the brain occupied, it doesn't think about being depressed. The day does affect your mood a sunny day is always nice to see, night time is dark and depressing. So invite friends over to spend the night or go to their house. Watch a funny movie with the family or by yourself. Basically if you keep busy with things that are happy and good and doesn't cause any sadness, you'll feel better. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Usually I get depressed at night because its quiet and the excitment of the day is over. Maybe there is something wrong with me, but I hate going to bed. I dont like winding down, I dont like laying in the dark, I dont like the silence. This may not be the best advice but I keep my mind stimulated until I sleep. Usually with a book or some cheery TV. You can try it and see if it works for you...
Best of luck!

Answer 4

maybe something is missing in your life that you feel sad about ? When you alone in the evenings do you feel a feeling of lonliness and this puts you in a depressed state.. You have to figure out what is triggering that depressed feeling... sorry i dont have the answer for you .. just trying to get u to dig deeper to find the reason behind it. Focus on your thoughts what are u thinking about that brings on those feelings.. if they are negative ones try to cahnge them ... Hope u find the answer :)

Answer 5

It sounds like you get really wore out at the end of the day and the energy it takes to be social is draining. Maybe you do have something bothering you and you need to talk to someone to figure out what it is.
Trying to snap out of depression can be physically and mentally exhausting. Your body can't be fooled.
Try mentioning this to your doctor, if you feel you can be open and share this with him/her. If not, try to find one you can.
I truly hope everything works out and you regain some peace in the evenings.

Answer 6

What is your home life like? you said you only get depressed when you are home after school.

Is your family going through a stressful time? It sounds like something to do with your home environment is making you depressed.

Answer 7

Huh...... Maybe it would help if you did something with your family or friends at night such as play a game of cards or a board game, go out to dinner, see a movie (happy movie), or something like that. This will help keep your mind busy and feeling active.

Answer 8

Could be a chemical imbalance. A small sad situation could happen and trigger more of the chemicals into your brain that cause you to be sad. No one could know for sure - see a doctor. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Sounds like you love the company of others, which isn't a bad thing, and hate the thought of being on your own. I am a little bit the same but with being older now I have accepted there will be many times I am on my own.

Answer 10

sounds like you need a break from being at home. spend the weekend at a friend's house or a relative's house. i got like that when I was in high school, too...and yea, you're still depressed. depression doesn't have to be constant, it comes and goes...