see. my dad and my mom got devorced when i was just two. now im fourteen. and living a few states away from my hometown. my dad was an alchohalic and he never really was one of those guys who cared. but when my parents got devorced they agreed on him paying for child support. he never paid one penny for it. and its been twelve years. and if i did sue that money would actually be put to good use. its just i feel like i should really be convincing my mom that we should sue to get the money, but i dont really know if i can or if its too late or what. its just one of those weird family things. and im not worried about the money. its just he was never there for me these twelve years and he should at least pay for something. like the money that he couldve chipped in when my mom and i were really in need. any suggestions? ♥
2007-03-22 16:38:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was born in chicago. where he stil probly lives. i dont know for sure. and now i live in albuquerque nm. so the states laws are different and all...but its just we have been meaning to do something about it. but we dont want him to know where we are living now. ive lived in three states and two different countries. we just moved here and if he finds us then we`ll have to start over again. life for my mom and me isnt easy. im not saying that life is sposed to be, but its not the typical typa divorce case. its different. i mean i couldnt even get a new passport til i turned fourteen. and i stil cant get one. money is tight. and they cost like about wut eighty dollars in most places.
2007-03-22 17:06:47 · update #1
i wouldn't sue, but i'm not sure where your at but you only have 1 - 3 years to sue people, if you you don't do it within the time limit, you can't sue, and doesn't the government automatically dock pay cheques in other words they force you to pay well in canada they do, & you have to be the legal age to even sue a person, it would end up costing you & your mother money because if he didn't pay up for the last 12 years what makes you think hes gonna pay up now, you will be worse than you are now & lawyers ain't cheap
hope that helps
2007-03-22 16:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by hustler.connection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law, it doesn't matter whether or not your parents agreed to him paying child support. Child support is almost ALWAYS mandatory for the spouse who does not have custody of the minor (that's you). If your dad has a job, you need to have your mother notify the state in which he is employed (There are probably forms available on that state's website that she can fill out to initiate the process). If there is proof that he is in fact the father and he has not been paying child support, the state will "garnish his wages" until ALL the child support that he owes you has been paid to an account in YOUR name. This means that for every paycheck that he receives, a set amount will automatically be deducted from it - just like the state income tax is automatically deducted from each paycheck we get. Every state has its own specific requirements, but I do know that there is a maximum amount they can take out of each of his paychecks. Usually it's about half. So, for example, if your dad gets a weekly paycheck in the amount of $1000, the state where he works can require the employer to automatically deduct up to $500 and put this $500 in an your account. And this goes for each paycheck he receives for every job in which he works. Don't let him off the hook, honey. He owes you this much at least. You have a STATUTORY RIGHT to this money. Good luck!
2007-03-23 01:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by katie m. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to sue.
All you need to do is drop a dime and contact the local "Deadbeat Dad's" section of Court that ordered he make the payments.
Somebody with a badge will remind him he's a little behind. You should get the money ... or ...
Then, they'll remind him in writing. Usually works; or ...
Then, a Judge will remind him in person. Guaranteed! or...
Then, his cell-mate will remind him how if he'd had made the payments ... he wouldn't be doin' time!
2007-03-22 23:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by rickcomatic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father owes you the child support, whether or not he "agreed" to pay it. He is your father.
Your mother has been remiss, in that she didn't try to get the money that should, by rights, be there for your upbringing.
Your mother should talk to a good family law attorney, and find out what to do.
2007-03-23 01:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, you should ask your mom to pursue him for child support. You will need money for college and to get a leg up in life. This is his obligation. But don't expect him to turn into a good person - that won't happen. However, if your mom says no, not much you can do, and she may have her reasons.
2007-03-22 23:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Just Mee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sue. Then use the money to take some spelling lessons.
2007-03-22 23:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he might be hard to find, since it's been like 12 years. But, if yuo know where he is, i think suing is the right thing to do, since it's illegal (i think) to not pay for child support.
2007-03-22 23:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by abcw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot sue, now your mother could.
-NmD!
2007-03-22 23:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋