How do I discipline a 3yr. old that I care for when his parent wont discipline him?

Question

This little boy screams, kick and punches me in the face, throws toys at people and the walls and swears. I have tryed putting him in the corner, putting him in his room, having a time out. but nothing works. He goes in his room he throws toys, swears and screams.He wont stay in the corner. and he wont sit in time out unless I hold him there and then hits and kicks and pulls my hair when I do so.. I told his mom and she doesnt do anything about it... I dont know what to do but get a new job.. But I would feel bad for the next person that watches him... SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!!

Answer 1

You need to try redirecting him. You also need to tell him, "It is not ok to hurt me or anyone else." You also should try a "cool-off time" (this is sort of time-out, but a chance for him to make his own decision when he is ready to be calm) Let him know that you will talk to him as soon as he is ready to be calm and talk to you like a big boy.
For Example:
"Okay, I feel that you need to cool off, because it is not ok to: _(whatever he does)__, and I will be ready to talk you when you are calm and ready to talk to me."
When he is "cooling off" ignore him and his actions (no eye contact) This is the hardest part, but he will soon figure out that you will not give in to his tantrums.
When he decides to be calm, remind him that he needs to make better choices or there will be a consequence. (Such as taking certain toys or activities away that he enjoys) I hope this works for you, good luck!

Answer 2

Seems like a drastic case, probably you can apply Reverse Psychology (defn: a method of getting another person to do what one wants by pretending not to want it or to want something else or something more) on him;

I first came across Reverse Psychology term when I was young and read a book of The Baby-sitters Club called "Dawn and The Impossible Three" whereby Dawn could not stand the Barrett kids (the Barrett kids seems to behave like the kid you mentioned) and applied reverse psychology on them (Dawn made the room more messier and more dirtier after the kids had made it messy and dirty and told them not to bother about it but the kids did not listen to Dawn and tidied the room up) and they finally became better kids.

Maybe it would be better for you to borrow the book from the local library and try to apply some of the babysitting skills mentioned in the book on the kid mentioned! CHEERS! Hope this will work out between you and the kid! :0)

Answer 3

refer to him. that is amazingly probable that he feels to blame and he's attempting to grow to be a chum of his daughter yet not her father. I consider you. without actual punishment, and with love and endurance is conceivable to develop your daughter properly giving her some elemental self-discipline. I easily have a 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous daughter, or maybe although the daddy is extra often than not away, we are actually not yet divorced. sometimes that is puzzling to discover the middle ingredient relating to the training of a teenager, once you will possibly desire to do it on my own. yet another straightforward ingredient he shouldn't do is to undermine your authority in front of her. seems to be that the classic conflict between an ex couple incredibly much continuously finally ends up happening interior the direction of the youngsters. that is damaging, yet so accepted... If i could be on your place, i might attempt to get exterior help with the intention to discover an settlement which would be puzzling to realize with your ex-husband. In some international places, you could deliver your baby to a habitual properly being assessment and placed across this occasion with the wide-unfold practitioner. in case you have observed any exchange interior the habit of your daughter, tell approximately this to the wide-unfold practitioner, comparable if the female get extra oftentimes ill or the rest you have observed because of the fact the daddy got here back. This small gesture will instruct your interest for the solid on your daughter and stay a written data in case the subject concerns that already started between the two parents finally ends up in court docket. purely be careful, enable tips from psychologist if mandatory, and shop up a correspondence along with her wide-unfold practitioner in case you come across some thing unusual. self-discipline is substantial, expressing love too. Be on the brink of her; word her physique of recommendations while the daddy is there and then getting your conclusions. of direction she would be waiting to like to be along with her father, is organic. shop your place without being unfair to her yet with your ex while you're confident he will smash the careful artwork you have been doing so properly till now. as quickly as extra, permit this occasion be generic via the wide-unfold practitioner or psychologist and safeguard in this type the way forward for you the two. I wish you the final. Fro

Answer 4

You do need to get a new job, you also need to confront his mother about her mothering skills. You need to let her know that he acts this way. It is better to do this in a letter so that you are able to sit down & write all of the things that he does down. You need to explain to her that his actions & her parenting preference is why you have decided to quit.
After to long, she is going to run out of people who will nanny/ home day care him & she will have to put him into a daycare. Once he is thrown out of daycare after daycare, she may become so embarrassed that she will finally address the situation.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

Tell the mother you are looking for a new job because her child is not diciplined. Maybe she will change how she is with him because she doesn't want to lose you. It probably will take a long time for him to change, so you may want to still get a different job. But you'd be helping that boy out in the long run.

You could not pay me enough to watch a kid like that. Parents like that would learn a hard lesson if NO ONE would watch their brats for them.

Answer 6

He sounds like a spoiled brat,the parents are encouraging his behaviour.Get out ,find a new job let the parents deal with it!

Answer 7

Have you tried an exhorcism? I think he may be possessed. Maybe bring him to a church and have the pastor/priest baptize him in holy water. At least ask his parents to take him to church and see if that solves the problem.

Answer 8

You actually cannot discipline this child yourself... you could end up in a whole lot of legal trouble. My best advice is to get another job (I know, that sounds easier than it is!)

Answer 9

That's a tough one. I'd have to find another job because with the way the one you're caring for is behaving, you're gonna end up getting a life sentence. Leave him to his parents and hope that they wise up. The next sitter isn't your concern, but, I (like you) feel for her.

Answer 10

I think you need a new job!

There could be something wrong with the kid. There is for sure something wrong with the parents. You will not be able to fix anything if the parents have no interest.