I am breastfeeding my 2 month old twins. Out of the blue my 4 year old wants to nurse too. When ever the babies are feeding he crys and tries to feed. When we are just snuggling and playing he tries to get to my breasts. I know it's hard for him, with 2 new babies. I try to show him as much attention as I can. This is nuts! My husband tries to help but our son does not want him. HELP!!!!!!
2007-03-22 16:26:28 · 12 answers · asked by Lulu 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's fairly normal for children to regress when siblings are born--especially little ones like your son. Something you might try is pulling out the "big boy" card. Tell your son that only babies nurse, while big boys get to do cool things like (insert cool thing here--ride a bike, help make dinner, whatever works for him).
It sounds simple, but if you focus on his big boy-ness it will really help. Also have him "help" you with the babies and remind him that big brothers are good helpers, etc etc. Focus on his "maturity" and I assure you that in time he will chill.
2007-03-22 16:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should try rocking and cuddling him to sleep, after the babies are down. I also pulled out "Big Kid" books while the baby was napping. Those were books that mommy only read to the big brother or sister. Also, really good treats while feeding the babies may work, bubbles, crayons and play doh were some that I used.
Try not to be grossed out. As someone else said, most of the world doesn't wean babies until around 4-5 years. My daughter was 4 when the baby was born, and although I pumped, and fed from a bottle, she was fascinated by the whole thing, and wanted to try the bottles(she is adopted, was never breastfed and only saw me try a few times with the baby). I let her, she spit it out, no more problem! I would say use it as a last resort, but if the distraction method doesn't work, maybe you should let him try it. Oh, I also got my daughter a doll that she "fed" while I fed the baby, but like I said, I used bottles, not sure how you would feel about your son imitating you=/
2007-03-22 18:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by jenn_a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you son is jealous, this is normal. 3 and 4 year olds often have hard time between "am I a baby or a big kid", this is normal too.
Just keep being firm with him, tell him that he has his own food and the babies have theirs. Explain it that way and treat it the same as if he were snatching food off your plate.
The world wide average to ween a child from the breast is 4 years old, so the desire is not bizarre for him. Much of the world would say you are bizarre for having him weened, but North American is different in MANY ways... (no complaining).
Let him have cuddle time and skin touch time (tummy touch). But no grabbing, insist. Tell your husband to hang in there and let your son see him have skin touch time with the babies too.
Good luck, it will get better.
2007-03-22 16:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it wont harm him! in worldwide places the place there is little or no different milk, babies get breast milk lots longer than we do in the western international. its organic. my purely concern is how can you cope with a infant, a newborn and then having to offer all that milk? i actually enjoyed breastfeeding my son yet he became a hungry infant and that i felt so drained in any respect circumstances in the 1st few months. if i've got been you i'd supply it a bypass and notice the way you all get on. your son could have purely picked up on what you have been discussing with somebody and is asserting it decrease back to you. my son is very virtually 2 besides and we stopped breastfeeding approximately 3 months in the past and he nevertheless at times asks for it. i've got given in once or twice and my milk continues to be there yet i've got made the call to stop so with a bit of luck i wont supply in lower back. its purely in circumstances the place he's ill or has fallen that he asks for it and that i do no longer think of this is a healthful association of it...
2016-12-15 06:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by goslin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely pull out the "Big Boy" card and set aside some special time for you and your son. Tell him that breast feeding is a special time for mommies and BABIES and tell him that mommies and big boys do something else special and try and do that thing every day. That way he will feel like he is getting his fair share of your attention and love.
2007-03-22 20:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by kirby_669 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is quite normal. I remember asking my Mum for booby after she had my brother. I was 3, I had stopped breastfeeding at 2.
So after his feed she let me have some. It was DISGUSTING I can still remember how gross it was.
So if you can't get him to sto with simply explaining that it's for the babies now and not big boys. Then maybe let him have a taste, it should be gross or him.
2007-03-22 22:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter still has expressed brest milk.. and i am currently feeding my 11 month old son.. she has never had cows milk accept on cerial and in cooking so she knows no different.. she never gets sick and is always asking for milkies aposed to juice or water.. i think its great that she still has breat milk.. its cheap and not so inconvienient while i am breat feeding my son also.
2007-03-22 19:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by amanda s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him try it, or you can pump it into a bottle. he wont like it. my 2 year did this smae thing so i let her try to nurse and she spit it out. she did continue to show intrest while i was breastfeeding but if i offered her the breast she would then rejected it and run away.
2007-03-22 18:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by jjsoccer_18 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would think this is pretty normal. he wants mommies full attention like when he was the baby. time alone just with him sounds like the golden ticket-just dont ask me how! good luck
2007-03-22 16:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DEAR
TAKE TIME OUT WITH HIM WHEN THE OTHER 2 ARE A SLEEP OK
TAKE A BUBBLE BATH WITH HIM SHOW HIM A MORE ATTAIN OK TO KEEP MILK YOUR PRODUCTION UP LET HIM DO IT JUST TELL HIM ONLY WHEN HE IS A REALLY BIG BOY AND MOMMY WITH THE TWINS LIKE BRING DIAPERS POWDER WIPES AND ANYTHING YOU CAN LET HIM HELP YOU WITH OK
HE IS JOULES OF THE OTHERS BECAUSE HE WAS THE ONLY ONE FOR 4 YEARS OK DEAR PLEASE SEE IT FROM HIS LITTLE POINT OF VIEW OK
THIS IS THE HARDEST I HAVE EVER HAD TO WRITE MY FRIEND HAD TRIPLET'S 2 BOYS AND ONE GIRL
SHE HAD ALL THE CHILDREN NORMAL
THE 2 BOY WAS 4.5LB 18
INCHES LONG
THE GIRL WAS 9.8 LB 23 INCHES
TAKE CARE
2007-03-22 16:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 7⤋