Everyday I will come home from work (I live with my parents--I just moved back home) and there will be some sort of crisis situation with lots of yelling, huffing, puffing and blaming. I just go to my room and shut the door, however it doesn't block out the noise and my stress and axiety levels are constantly increasing. Today the lock box containing my birth certificate is missing (and so my mum thinks we've been robbed)....yesterday it was a bill discovered unpaid....
2007-03-22 16:01:44 · 11 answers · asked by cutie pie (2) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel you, My home is the same way...Nothing but bitterness, & nonsence...It's like a friggin mad house! All you can really do is hang in there, just try to do what ever you have to do to make them happy...such as washing a dish, or cleaning a room...We all have tough lives, things would be a lot more easier if we all just lend a hand to one another every now & then right? It's tough love, you'll move out someday until then, just try your best...alright...
--Love--
2007-03-22 16:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the birth certificate. You can get a copy of your birth certificate by going online and ordering another one from the Bureau of Records of the County and State where you were born. Usually, it costs $10.00. The bigger issue is the fact that you moved "home" into a stressful atmosphere. You need to move out ASAP. Get yourself a small apartment on your own. That's the only way to feel really grown up and be relaxed. If you have financial problems, save up enough for your first two month's rent, and then leave. Some motels rent rooms by the week, too. I'd get out of your parents' house just as soon as you can.
2007-03-22 16:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough on. It is easy to suggest that you move out. Obviously you've thought about that.
From the way you phrased the question, you seem like you have the maturity to cope with the situation at hand.
I have been in far less than ideal situations and the following strategies have helped me.
1. Create a mental space that nobody can get into. That is your room.
2. In your room, you have a dresser and a file cabinet. File people's problems, and your problems away there. Label them for easy access when you need to 'pull a file' on a particular issue. But don't let your files blend together.
3. Keep that room tidy and clean. People only may enter by your invitation only.
4. It sounds like you are surrounded by people who act like children. Tell yourself that they are children. Give them the illusion that you are handling the problems in an adult manner, but deal with them as if they were kids.
5. In your special mental-room, have a bookcase with all of your awards, achievements, and certificates for all that you are proud of in your life.
I hope that helps. I have developed these strategies to cope with all the crap that people can hurl at others.
2007-03-22 16:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by poweranni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother that has my daughter with her 2 kids still living @ home and it is never an easy situation. We never have peace,and it's every man for himself atmosphere when everyone arrives home.My g-kids are 4 @ 7 and I know its not good for them to hear the arguing and blaming all the time and forget counseling. It's everyone elses fault,no one person is to blame. The only advice I can give you is get your **** together @ get out asap. My daughter and I get along fine unless she lives with us ..the old saying is true"you can't run 2 households under 1 roof" and eventhough it's just you..you are your own household..good luck honey i've been living with the same situation forever and I get more peace at work than i do in my own house.
2007-03-22 16:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go home call and acquire about the situation at home. It is somewhat sarcastic, but this would inform your family on how displease you are about your home life. I know this is hard for you. Put your problem into God's hands and pray that you'll find a place for yourself where you can go to a nice home of your own.
My thoughts are with you. I am also seeking ways of getting my own place to stay where I can be very happy. Lets keep each other in prayers.
God Bless
2007-03-22 16:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breathe deeply. Breathe often. Breathe in slowly. Breathe out slowly. Repeat.
Think of your situation. You are not alone. many of us have been forced to move back for one reason or another, but mostly for financial reasons. Think of what steps you can take to get out of the situation you're in. Get on a financial plan, save money, and move out as soon as you can. Moving home sucks for everyone. See what got you here, and take little steps every day to get you out. Don't be hard on yourself. Everyone else is being hard on you enough. Just breathe deeply. Look forward to being on you own, out of that environment, and at peace.
Take yoga. Breathe. It will work out only if you work it out.
2007-03-22 16:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by James W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Don't be picky about where. Call the police about the birth certificate and tell them to contact you at your new residence. Sleep.
2007-03-22 16:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a look at ( http://www.reducingstress.net )
There is a lot of good information and help there for stress issues.
2007-03-25 04:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe their having money problems ,and another person moving in can be adding to their stress ,are you helping them with bills and groceries,if not do' and sit down and talk to your mom and ask her is their something wrong and can YOU DO something to help her, . .
2007-03-22 16:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill and listen to some music. It always helps...or go to a friends and tell them about it, your parents will be so busy fighthing as your telling ur friend they may not notice.
2007-03-22 16:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋