she is obssesed wit me. Im not trying to be cocky but seriously. We hooked up a year ago and i immediatly dumped her. Then i hooked up wit her like 3 months ago. She keeps on askin "will u hurt again like u did before?" and all kinds of ****. and shes really messed up, like she had sex in the 6th grade. plus she wont give me any action and we rarely speak. she always asks "will u break up wit me?, will u hurt me again?" and im tired of it....wat should i do???
2007-03-22 15:43:21 · 17 answers · asked by Dunkin' on yo head 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would walk away from that situation ... no, wait ... I would RUN away from that situation ... This situation will NOT get better, find someone without so many complications if she's like this now ... it can only get worse. and DON'T start dating her again 3 months later.
2007-03-22 15:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Gizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a guard up because she really don't want to get hurt again, but as Dr. Phil always say you create what you fear and she is doing just that.
I assume that you two aren't in a relationship, perhaps just a physical one 3 months ago? Well, if you rarely speak nor have sex then it sounds like an absence of a relationship (whether it be friendship or an official relationship), and many will tell you that it is best to let her go COMPLETELY. What do you have to lose when there is nothing to gain?
2007-03-22 22:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't act angry. Let her down easy. Tell her that there was a reason you guys broke up the first time and you just don't feel like the relationship is working the way it needs to. If you want to avoid the tears and screams tell her that she is beautiful and she could have any guy she wanted. Tell her she deserves a boy friends who loves her unconditionally, instead of a boyfriends who loves her but isn't IN love with her.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 22:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that you've been playing with her feelings. and if something bad goes down ; you might be responsible. the
best thing to do is to be open and honest
with her because you really don't dig her
anyway. she may become a good friend.
you need to treat her right and let her know you are not interested in her in that way. you just wanted some action. take care of
your business before one day you get slam
dunked. some girls hold on forever ; so be honest and kind for once in your life.
2007-03-22 22:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try expecting a little more out a relationship than just some booty. You expect a girl who you rarely talk to, and who you've already hurt in someway to just give it up with no questions asked? Try having a little respect for women.
Otherwise, if you do treat her with respect and she is just crazy, don't talk to her anymore. If she calls you, don't pick up the phone. Just cut off all ties with the wacko!!
2007-03-22 22:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nidda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
action is that all u ******* want no wonder she asks u these questions come on after u dumped her u can't x-pect her 2 trust u u and jus' cuz a girl or guy has had sex doesn't make them up for grabs
2007-03-22 22:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lil_B4ByLV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
---------ask her what it is she hopes to achieve in your relationship----then discuss your feelings and her feelings----be a good listener when she speaks ----and at the same time make certain she understands what you need from a relationship as well---------good luck.
Try to find humor in daily life------
LAUGHTER is a great medicine.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
Sing like nobody's listening.
Live like it's Heaven on Earth.
2007-03-22 22:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from her. she is obviously affecting you mentally and being in a relationship like that is harmful to both of you. tell her (nicely) that you are not interested in going out with her but you can't hold past experiences against her either. just let things go and move on with your lives.
2007-03-22 22:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not secure.. she's worried that you would leave her again... she just wants to hear you say it repeatedly... you think it is possible that you are not showing her enough attention? She is probably the kind that needs your attention 20hrs a day.. if you cant deal with it, i think you may a big problem on your hands...
2007-03-22 22:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by i am who i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her and dont get back with her but if you truly like her then i guess you should ask her why she keeps asking those questions.
Good luck!!
2007-03-22 22:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by mihaela z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋