Help me please?

Question

*sigh* here it goes.
i'm dating this guy, and i feel like he is 'the one' he feels it too. we've both been hurt more than anyone else we know. i trust him full heartedly, but i can't help but think that hes talking to someone else. i never get jealous if he talks to other girls, as long as they keep their hands off of him. and hes the same way. we love each other very much. but hes scared that i'll lose interest in him because of our age difference. I'm 19 and he's 28... I know it sounds odd. But there's just something about him... I can't explain how I feel for him. I've honestly never been in love like this. It scares me a bit. We love each other, i know that he loves me for me. Just by the way he treats me, what he does for me, the little things, ya know? All I really want to know is. Even though were bot scared of getting hurt? is that going to end our relationship? or will it pass? i really need help on this. i love him too much to let him go.

Answer 1

Hi I agree that the keyword in your relationship is basically "TRUST". Since both of you have been hurt badly before, my guess is that your relationship is pretty much fragile emotionally. Since you love him a lot, my advice is to put lots and lots of efforts into communicating your feelings to him and vice-versa. This would take lots of hard work because my personal experience tells me that communication is the hardest of all. Never ever leave arguments/ quarrels unresolved overnight. Especially those involving trust/jealousy. Try to come to an agreement with regard to how the two of you define jealousy. For example, you might be jealous when your bf hug another girl, but he may think that it is normal and nothing much. All these things need to be sorted out so that the two of you have an idea.

Personally, I don't think your age difference would matter a lot nowadays. It is not like you are dating a guy 9 years younger than you are. Girls are more mature than guys at the same age, so you should be fine. Just remember communicate, communicate, communicate. It is a very hard thing to do..... good luck...

Answer 2

Trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship and if you two trust each other then the fear will past...You two need to sit down and have a heart to heart find out what each is looking for in the other and a relationship. Have fun together to take the pressure off. Make sure you are friends and not just lovers...You two should be able to talk, laugh, play, joke,cry, party together and listen to each other. A relationship is work but it's not hard or bad when you have someone who is willing to work with you to keep it going strong. You two will have ups and downs and they will either make you or break you..But if what you have is real you'll survive the test and move on together..Keep your communication open and try to be understanding to each others feelings...A relationship is give and take and sometimes more give then take...Love will make you sacrifice sometimes but you have to ask your self is this person worth it? Would he/she do the same for me? And if the bad outweighs the good then let it go...Have fun as much as possible you two are still young enjoy each other, but make sure you stay individual meaning absence makes the heart grow funder...Sometimes you may have to miss each other by not seeing each other for a day or two to appreciate what you have....If it's truely meant to be then you will be okay...Don't stress that will only bring pressure into the relationship just let it flow take it one day at a time....

Answer 3

I know how you feel, i think it passes. Its just your subconsious telling you to be carefull because you've been hurt before and dont want to again! But as they say "love like you've never been hurt".