I don't want my kids to be hicks. My gf is totally normal and I didnt even consider that her family may be mangy. I have a suspicion that her mother had an affair and produced my wife.Should I say i dont believe in putting any more people into the world and all that junk? What should I do?
2007-03-22 15:35:43 · 9 answers · asked by Modus Operandi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont believe you when you say you think your g/f is totally normal.Why?First you more or less call her parents inbred hillbilly trailor park trash without ANY regard to the FACT that they raised a "totally normal" girl.You dont know if the mother produced her through an illicit affair, but that and your opinion of her parents seems to make you think your g/f is just like her parents which you described.Could it be thats not the case at all and that youre having cold feet and looking for a way out of marrying her?Dont you have the guts to say"look honey Ive changed my mind I DONT love you and I cant marry you"?Think about it, your g/f deserves better.
2007-03-22 15:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey give the in laws a chance you say u only just met that isnt fair. my husband just met my family for the first time in our 7yr relationship last week we live in a different state we are pretty easy going people and was worried about us all getting along in the same house for a week, mum was heaps more chilled out than i remembered her and my partner used to say she was an inbred alchoholic but he was proved wrong when we just had the best week ever with each other and cant wait to meet up again. give it a chance u will be surprised.
2007-03-22 23:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by kstsjt07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you and your partner/wife would be having and raising the children, not her parents. Many features you observe in people are not a result of their genetic makeup but rather of their upbringing, education and opportunities.
If you are thinking of having children someday with this wife/girlfriend you should certainly become awareor and educated about any genetic issues in your respective families in order to make intelligent family planning decisions (e.g. if you are both carriers cystic fibrosis, there is a family history of colon cancer etc).
But once you have done that, you and she can make the parenting decisions that will enable you both to raise the kind of children you will be proud of.
2007-03-22 23:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Eva P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, it's all about how you raise your kids. If you don't raise your kids like hicks, they won't be hicks. Your wife doesn't seem like one to you...so why would your children??? Sounds like you have no room to call hicks "mangy". You are looking down on people and judging them harshly. That's not fair to your wife, and it's not fair to her family. What gives you the right to look down on them? Maybe you should have considered meeting her family before you married her if you are going to be so rude about it. Don't try to make your wife feel bad about where she came from!!!
2007-03-22 23:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Nidda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, your story sounds SO much like mine! My hus is the normal one, too. I wish I had known my in-laws better before I was too far involved. Things would be so different. I wouldn't worry about the DNA. (My son is super smart for his age.) But, you will have to deal with their drama and ignorance for the REST of your LIFE!
2007-03-22 22:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about having children... I am sure your girlfriend has seen how you reacted to her family and is thinking, "Wow, I didn't realise he was so retarded - I don't want kids that turn out like him!".
By the way, you said "I met my gfs family at our weddin". erm... if it was your WEDDING then she is your WIFE not girlfriend.
2007-03-22 23:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by donedeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, what a wonderful husband you are.
If you don't want your kids to act like your wife's family (hicks) or your family (jerks), then teach them how to act in public, make sure they get a good educations, make sure they mind their manners and teach them not to be as judgemental and close-minded as their dad.
2007-03-22 22:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't worry about it. they will turn out the way u raise them. just try to enjoy ur marriage.
2007-03-22 22:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by S A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whatif theyre rednecks. im one and i have always done fine for myself. i know when to work, and when to play. calm down, if you raise them your way, they wont be that way
2007-03-22 22:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋