Why do you choose to stay in/start a monogamous relationship?

Question

Is it to make the other person your first priority?
Is it to eventually get married and start a family?
Is it to have someone to confide in who's got your back?
Is it to have fun with someone on a regular basis?
Or something different?

What makes you want to stay?

Answer 1

I feel that I've built something - layered year by year with both of our accomplishments.

It's a true patnership where we both brought things to the table, and both have added differently over the years.

Sometimes, one of us made us save more money, and the other made us join a gym and go. There are too many examples to list, but I hope you get the idea: one of us did this, and the other did that, so together we did this AND that.

If I was single - I think I'd be zig-zagging through relationships. One relationship would pull me (and my money and career and other goals) this way, and my next one would pull me that way.

Answer 2

The thing that makes me want to stay is feeling like I have a best friend, a husband, and a life partner all in one. I have someone that I can trust (if you find the right person) completely in every way, and these days that's not easy to find. Once you find the right person, there will be hundreds of reasons why you only want to be with them. If you find "the one" you will have no desire to be with anyone else. It's like putting the last piece into a huge puzzle that you've been working on for years...when it fits, you will just know it.

Answer 3

I can only get off with someone whose "groove" I'm somewhat used to and whom I trust and like a lot (perhaps love). Sex is better for me in a relationship.

My lover is also my best friend. He's the only one I can trust to put me ahead of other interests. He listens more attentively and advises more carefully than other friends.

I like the smell of testosterone in the morning. I'm addicted to that manly odor, but it has to be that of the one I love or it stinks.

I feel safe and protected by my bf. Even when he's not around I have a sense of belonging. I feel as though no one (including the auto mechanic, etc) will mess with me because they know they'd be messing with him, too.

Answer 4

For me, it's because i've grown up...i'm 35, i have a son to care for, i'm continuing my education, and the idea of returning to the casual dating scene makes me ill...i've got better things to do right now than meeting any more jerks...i know who i love, i know who i want to grow old with, i know who i want to fight and make up with, and no one has ever come close to making me as happy as him...i really don't think i need to have any more lovers, i've had my share....now i'm focused on making my life better, and someday, marry that special man ...and i could not have it any other way but monogamous....what makes one want to stay? i think it's when the good times outweigh the bad, when you can fight and disagree but still not end up hating each other...it's unconditional love, no matter what happens, ya love 'em...

Answer 5

I don't know exactly. I guess its because I've found someone I have a lot of things in common with, we are comfortable with each other, both attracted to each other and I guess I was never really into the whole dating scene to begin with (talking the whole date with one person one week, sick of them, on to the next person etc). We get along and ultimately both want the marriage and family thing one day in the future.

Answer 6

It's called love, and it happens naturally, and it feels good & right!

Answer 7

Im afraid the answer - however corny it sounds - is love. . . oh yeah and jealousy

Answer 8

I'd say its all of those.