A couple of my friends cut themselves, ones a guy and one is a girl. How do i help them? I think they may be going suicidal also, and I dont know how to help. Help?
2007-03-22 15:18:26 · 13 answers · asked by (: 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
"you'r friend" needs help..there reaching out
2007-03-22 15:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by shining star 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know its really hard to see someone else in pain. especially if its a friend. and to see them hurting themselves is jsut devestating, I know I have a few friends like that also.
There isnt alot you can do for them.. the thing with cutting is, its their coping solution if you take that away form them what are they going to do... Your friend have to stop cutting for themselves.. dont ever tell dont cut or i wont be your friend because it is really hard to stop and they will feel even worse if they slip up.
I think you need to talk to them about it and see what going on, and ask if you can help them over come their problems.. then move onto the cutting problem.
But if you think they are in serious danger of harming themselves you have to tell a trusted adult.
But jsut being there for them and telling them how much you care and love them is enough for them.
2007-03-22 23:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best answer I can give you is to notify someone who can intervene, especially if this person you are so concerned about is young.
I say so, because there really is not much you can do to help him other than listen to him when he talks and let him know you value him. Don't alienate him, and I would actually try to get him into counseling or something. If he refuses, you definately should tell someone who can step in and take this burden off you. I would also tell him that you are doing this, so he doesn't feel that you are untrustworthy. You should tell him that because you feel like he is in danger that you can not keep the secret. He may stop talking to you altogether, but I would imagine it would be worse for you and him if he stopped talking to you because he bled to death. Let him know you are there, unconditionally.
You can not change someone else, but you do have control over how you respond to someone else. If your gut feeling is that he is a danger to himself and you don't take the scary approach, (telling), then if something happens, you will have a hard time forgiving yourself.
When someone is in danger, and you know about it, you must say something. This is encouraged across the board because it is the most effective way in helping people who are hiding that they are in danger. They are not at a place to get help themselves, so you must intervene and attempt to do so for him.
If someone was getting ready to accidently walk into oncoming traffic and you saw it happening, you would yell or grab for them to stop, you wouldn't just keep watching it happen. Your friend is getting ready to walk head on into traffic and you have to grab him and tell him stop. If he refuses, then you have done what you could and all you can do is wait for him to allow you to bandage up the bruises when he is ready for you to.
2007-03-22 22:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by eyellnevrtell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only help by supporting them. However, they need serious professional help, and the only way you can be of assistance in that way is to tell their parents or your guidance counselor what is going on. It might be difficult, but you must do it. There are doctors and therapists who can work with them and help them get in a better place. You will be a part of that and can feel that you were a true friend.
2007-03-22 22:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Self Mutilators aren't always suicidal but they are definitely depressed. They need help. They can anonymously call in to any suicide hot-line. All have trained professionals. If you all are still in school, I would definitely talk to the school counselor. Let them know you love them and are worried about them. Its difficult sometimes.
2007-03-22 22:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by swee_pea630 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pray pray pray and tell one of their relatives for they have all the right to know.` Inform them as soon as possible because if any thining happens you dont want to feel any regret's and you want to feel you did the right thing. Prayer works and you should lift them up in prayer you dont have to be religious all you have to do is reach out to god for them. Get other people involve and set a time where other will come in agreement in prayer this could be aunts,uncles,grandmas or other friends as long as your praying for their safety their well being and for a turn around in their life means well. God listens to everyone and answers prayers. There is power in prayer you will see a differance . This is a big way to help just tell god what you would like for them to stop doing and what you would want for their life if it means good and god sees your love for them he will be there listening as well as answering. Dont let this go by another day with out prayer.
2007-03-22 23:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by amores 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is just be there for them. And also, try to find out if they're actually depressed, or just trying it for fun, or getting attention. If they are depressed, just make sure they know that you're there for them and will try to help them out in any way possible. Sometimes it's all about being cared about and needed.
2007-03-22 22:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by ratzenfratzengoogillygoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write down these; make copies; keep one. Cutting: Phone 1800 dont cut See http://www.focusas.com/selfinjury.html & http://palace.net/~llama/psych (/psych/injury.html) Suicide: Phone (800) 442-HOPE & 1800 784 2433 & 1800 lifenet See http://www.suicidepreventionhotline.org/ & http://teenline.org/ Phone (714) NEW TEEN
2007-03-22 23:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to comfort them dont force them to do anything or say you wont be their friend anymore if they continue cutting that will just make matters worce just show them positive things and they will eventualy stop and if it gets to suicadal level do what ever you can to prevent it
2007-03-22 23:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by life aint a fary tale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put garlic bulb in their pockets to run off demons.
Pray for them and get the devil out of their heads
2007-03-22 22:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋