I am meeting my officiant next week, 2 days before wedding. Should I warn him I have a tattoo or just let him see it at the ceremony? It is an arm band. The church we attend has a great pastor but always looks at my tattoo in a way that I feel judged. I don't want to feel this way on my day. Am I thinking about this too much, or should I say something?
2007-03-22 15:11:42 · 20 answers · asked by pchiz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is absolutely none of their business, they have no right to look judgmentally at anyone, there is nothing wrong or illegal with having a tattoo, you are really stressing over very minor things, put it out of your mind now and concentrate on the more important things. If you get this worried about small things you'll be a bag of nerves by the time the day comes, RELAX!!!!!
And for people like that stupid person "nanny" above me, tattoos are personal, if you don't want one then fine, but don't judge others who choose to have one, it's called being an adult and making a choice for yourself, respect other people's choices, people who have tattoos have to live with them, and that is their decision, just because you don't have one does not make you any better a person.
2007-03-23 05:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you just meeting your officiant TWO days before the wedding is what I want to know????
Is this an informal, no rehearsal wedding?
Unless your tattoo is offensive in some manner which it doesn't sound to me like it is,......you might want to mention it to him if it isn't visible when you meet. And don't get offended if he tells you to cover it up. You probably won't have time to find someone else to marry you. They make makeup for that very thing.
Some people are cool about it some aren't.
Ps. As far as HRM's comment, there isn't always "judgement" going on. It is his business as some churches have rules about too revealing of a dress or secular music. It has nothing to do about loving & accepting.
2007-03-22 22:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always show the tattoo to the officiant at the meeting letting him know that you've got it. If you feel judged when he looks at you and sees it, ask him about that. If your worried that he won't allow it seen at the wedding there is make up to cover the tattoo so that it isn't visiable when your doing the ceremony.
2007-03-22 22:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always thought arm bands were the ugliest tattoos ever. Perhaps the pastor that looks at you like that is either agreeing with me or you simply don't like your tattoo so much anymore and are embarassed about having something so tacky on your body, but since it's easier for your mental state to think the pastor is judging you than to accept the fact that you're stuck with something so nasty, you think that instead. You don't need to show him the tattoo or tell him about it unless you think it's so tacky that he can't help but make a face.
Really, if anything people are judging you on your obvious poor taste or your poor taste at some point in your life...not that you have a tattoo.
2007-03-22 22:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are worrying too much about this. It's just a tattoo, not big deal. If you think that it may distract during the ceremony you could always have it covered with make up. I have a tribal tattoo on my arm and it was not a big deal at my wedding. Do what ever makes you most comfortable.
2007-03-22 22:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything, that will just be awkward... if he wants to judge, let him, the Bible says you shouldn't judge and he should know that. I don't think it should matter if you have a tattoo or not since it's basically a norm today. And he's gonna glance at it even if you let him know it's there ahead of time. Isn't that half the point of tattoos, so people will look at them? He'll get over it, he's just marrying you. Don't worry so much about what he'll think, just enjoy getting married.
2007-03-22 22:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just blow it off ur shoulder! it doesn't matter if u have a tattoo in a church!!! And the tattoo probably suits u and makes u original and different... which is awesomely good!!
And if the pastor keeps being wierd, maybe u should tell him or ask him,"so do u like my tattoo since u keep looking at it?" (lol)
oh ya and congrats!!
2007-03-23 01:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Love is you. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan on covering up my tattoo just to avoid that plus I don't want to hear my mother or his mother discussing my ink all day. The link provided above is what I'm ordering even though I got it from TrustedBeauty.com which is selling it for 24.95.
2007-03-22 23:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your pastor your officiant?
If not i wouldn't worry anyway, they are their to marry you not judge you.
I'd personally cover a tattoo up as I think it would distract from everything else but that is just me!
2007-03-22 22:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear, it's none of his business...and he has no right to judge you or discriminate against you for that or piercings or make up or however you choose to look...he's supposed to love and accept you just as you are, and if he gives you any crap, you just remind him of that and find someone else to officiate....but i'm betting he won't say much, since i'm sure he wants to get paid...
2007-03-22 22:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by HRM Queen Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋