I totally HATED this guy from the sixth grade. He was one of those boys who would tease you so hard you'd cry, and pull your hair. But then... (I'm in the seventh grade now) he changed.. He suddenly started acting nice and gentleman-like. He still teases me because I have short hair but now its not as bad. Somewhere between lunch time and science, I fell in love with him. People always say he's mean but... can it be? What do you think? Is it RIGHT to fall for a used-to-be-bully-turned-gentlemen/playboy?
2007-03-22 15:06:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that he was mean to EVERYONE. He was like a big flirt, and I think BECAUSE I am rebellious and disliked cocky guys he acted like that around me. But when we fought, people said I had a crush on him(I didn't at that time), and he answered that Yeah I DO!? WHATS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!!?
2007-03-22 15:20:21 · update #1
Yes, if he has really changed, and you have truly forgiven him. love can turn into hate very easily, and vice versa as well. Make sure he isn't just acting nice because he has the hots for you.
2007-03-22 15:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should grow your hair out. It's a thing that will make you a true woman. You don't want to show people that you are a man do you? Or that you are feminine and powerful? Think about win-win. Women are difficult humans to forgive. Men on the other hand forgive easily. It's great that he changed for the better; you hope. Only you can make that determination based on further experiences with him. If he starts to treat you badly, you can leave him and think that you were wrong that he didn't change and is still a bully. I hate bullies. Only if I had known more about the law and my parent's had told me how to handle bullies, I would have enjoyed high school and better relationships would have evolved out of it. I would be careful with the idea of seeing him as being nice now. He probably isn't and is just hiding it until you get involved. Seeing is another thing from experiencing him.
2007-03-22 22:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by scottsorgent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line between love and hate. Seeing how you are in seventh grade it is even a finer line than when you are more mature. But what you have noticed in him has been helped along with puberty (I know it is an ugly word but it is true). It is prefectly acceptable to fall for the guy you once hated. The two you could be great couple. Remember opposites attract. I would go for it.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 22:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by JennTarbox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with this. Why do other's say he is mean? Have you noticed that he ever acts mean to anyone else still? If you have I'd AVOID him. I knew a bully very well in elementary. He was nice to me , however. And he was nice to the girl he dated all through junior high and once high school began he started treating her meanly when things didn't go his way. They married and it ended up in divorce after they had 2 kids because he would beat the heck out of her. After the divorce she confided in me that she hesitated leaving him before they married because people always said they were perfect for each other and were a beautiful couple.
2007-03-22 22:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in 7th grade.. now both of you are realizing that you find the opposite sex attractive, which is why he's "nicer" and why you're drooling over him. You're most likely not in love with him, just infatuated. So flirt with him, take it slow, and don't be upset when you find out that he hasn't changed that much.
2007-03-22 22:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, i introduced a college friend from another state and the first time they went out my female cousin hated my college friend..well, after awhile they got married and had four children..so hate can turn to love..go figure
2007-03-22 22:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First no its not wrong but then again it is cause if he treats you like **** now then what you think will happen to you wen yall are together? But don't do relationships until you are ready
2007-03-22 22:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Though You Knew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time it's okay, and rite, but do you really want to go out with a asshole like that, even if he's the love of your life? give it a go anyway, you might regret it later!
2007-03-22 22:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theirs a fine line between love and hate.
i'd go with my first instincts, they are usually right. the bully is still in there
trust me...and your first instincts you'll be glad you did
2007-03-22 22:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Terriblterry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get off the computer AND DO SOME HOMEWORK! Forget about boys, they stink and will make you cry!
2007-03-22 22:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by DREDAY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋