i feel real ugly and fat and it makes me depressed all the time wat should i do?

Answer 1

Why do you feel this way? If a guy is telling you this it is verbal abuse- my husband calls me ugly and worthless. Dump the guy! If you really are fat, go on a diet like cut out most sweets and drinks with sugar and of course ice cream. Always remember "it's what's inside that counts". Important! Please tell your family doctor you feel depressed ASAP! I am suffering from depression too because of my abusive husband but am not suicidal. If you are very depressed please call your local hospital's CRISIS hotline. You may need to see a psychiatrist to get help. Nothing to be ashamed about! In my case I really am ugly- chubby, no teeth, ugly lswollen legs due to an incurable disease called cellulitis. What is ugly about you? my hair was mousy brown. I had it sun glitzed blonde. I have lost 160 pounds so far mstly because my abusive husband starves me, I have no support system. I have 4 cats that are my life. I think you ought to call your doctor immediately before the depression becomes worse. Figure out why you feel this way! And buy a pet to hug and hold, Pets are great therapy. I'd be lost without my cats. I know you won't be able to get over this by yourself even with a pet. Our CRISIS # is 1-717-243-6005 but they do bill your insurance co. but Gateway pays in full. I care!

Answer 2

Ever tried to grab other people's opinions? Constructive criticism, although sometimes taken the wrong way and thus cause pain, can be useful when manipulated in the right direction.

Get some other opinions from others. If these opinions seem somewhat appauling, then make something of yourself and start working at it. There are so many ways girls can be noticed. I will tell you straight up that guy love girls with a nice body - hence why most love athletic girls. Start working out - steady pace of course - and see your results.

As for beauty, there are many things you can do as well. Try new hair styles (usually has a large effect when you finally find a desired one), make-up, eyebrows, etc. There are many contemporary ways you can get your beauty up. Please keep in mind this statement is completely through majority; I really don't pay too much attention to beauty but I do like women who take care of their bodies, etc.

The world is full of opportunities... take advantage of it!

Good Luck, and Take Care!

Answer 3

My suggestions:
1. determine if you really are fat. Your doctor can tell you if you are overweight or not.
2. Stop watching so much tv. The media is full of hype over how women should look. Unplug that tv for 2 weeks, believe me you will notice a change in your thinking.
3. Eat healthy foods and get exercise.
4. Take control of the negative thoughts that base your self-worth on how you look. You are MORE than just your appearance.

Answer 4

Many girls have a false body image. One of the prettiest girls I knew was bulimic because she thought she was fat. She was normal sized and every guy that saw her was physically attracted to her. You may be like this, in which case, you just need to gain a more positive self image. Most girls who say they are fat and ugly aren't at all, so it may be just you who thinks this. If you are overweight, try to regulate your diet (which does not mean don't eat, but rather eat healhtier foods) and workout. Overall, once you get to know a person well, you won't care what they look like. Most people say I'm a good-looking kid and only one girl I've gone out with has been considered by most people to be hot.

Answer 5

First of all, realize that beauty has NOTHING to do with outward apperance. I know you've heard that your whole life and most people judge you by how you look and not who you are but... just remember this, the people who judge you by your outward appearance and don't take the time to get to know you are not worth knowing anyway. You need to make a list of all your great qualities and don't feel weird about listing them either. Then, find some friends that will help you with your self-esteem and maybe even consider seeing a counselor. Once you start to love yourself how you are now... everything else will fall into place...

Answer 6

ok I was there just about 8 months ago..I was in a tight 16 and ate like a mule in a foriegn country where food is scarce...I was at the point I could hardly roll over in my bed...I felt horrible....one night my heart and my chest was pounding and I could hardly breathe and I am 36 with 3 boys that need me...I thot what in the heck is happeneing to me....I dealt with this all night....I got up the next morning and went straight to the gym , drank water all day and ate crackers...I got so hungry but I knew I had to do it....the first weeks were HORRIBLE and unbearable..but with the excercise and the new eating habits I had adobted I started to feel so much better....well I lost 94 pounds and that was me hard at it and self dedicated....I am divorced so I am alone and felt depressed over lots of things..well this march I went clothes shopping and bought some of the cutes clothes and shoes and NOTHING is tight on me and I love the looks from people and wow do I have confidence more than I have had in my intire life...Just tell yourself you have to do it.....and you will.....

Answer 7

your not ugly and fat. i have these days too but you just need to take a long shower, get dressed in your fave outfit, then go to the park or the mall, call some friends, take the dog for a walk and maybe start eating healthy foods. banana's are good as they provide vit.B which is good for depression. i buy health mags from the news-agency and that really inspires me to get up and do something about my life and where i want to go and how to control my eating habits,what to eat etc. good luck and chin up :)

Answer 8

Buy some Tony Robbins CDs listen to them.. and you'll be good to go.. hahah jk
what you need to do though is change this self image of yourself both mentally and physically. If you are overweight, then you should devote yourself to losing it. Be healthy, for yourself, and for God. God gave you that body, so use it to please him by keeping it in shape and healthy. While in this process you need to stop this negativity in your mind. The more you tell yourself you're fat and ugly, the more you will believe it, even if its not true at all. Tell yourself positive things, even if you yourself don't believe it at first. Even if you feel ugly, tell yourself you're beautiful, that God loves you, and that I'm in the process of making myself look even better. Eventually your mind will catch up with it, and will start to believe what you're telling yourself, just as when you programmed yourself to think your ugly by constantly telling yourself that. over time, this should eliminate your problems.

Answer 9

You need to begin thinking differently about yourself, otherwise you may risk developing a serious eating disorder or undergo unnecessary cosmetic surgery.

Do you feel this way because you are reading to many fashion magazines or watching to much TV? The media is known to make women feel ugly and fat. I hope you have time to check out the websites I've included:
http://www.beugly07.com/
http://www.about-face.org/

Best wishes to you!

Answer 10

first stop being so hard on yourself....I think the only reason you are feeling that your are ugly is because you just are not right .....right now.....by that I mean ...something is going on with you that you cant deal ....I'm sure you have that one person you can "talk" to .....talk with them or talk to someone....if you don't have anyone post more here...maybe opening up what you are feeling ....may help....yeah there are some ..jerks that will say asinine things but those people cant help themselves.....once you start feeling good about yourself everything else usually falls in place...." Keep ya head up"