I dont know how to tell my bridesmaid how much the dress is going to cost before going with her to be sized and her finding out at the checkout. She is very flighty and unorganized and is doing this all last minute. I hate to let her find out when we go to the salon. What do I say??
2007-03-22 14:59:47 · 25 answers · asked by mizz_cassie_cass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was in a similar situation. Orginally all of my bridesmaids were supposed to wear something dif. from each other (they pick what they like and in thier price range) but 2 of my bridesmaids loved the same dress. The 3rd bridesmaid never made it to pick out the dress so I showed her a pic and the price (under $100) 2 weeks later she got really scetchy and tried backing out of the wedding come to find out, she did not have the money for a dress or anything else for that manner. I ended up offering to pay for the dress, and since I had known her most of my life my mom offered to pay for her hair and hotel room (for the wedding was out of town)
I would reccommend telling her prior so she can at least be mentally prepared. If it is overly expensive, maybe you can find her an alternative, or help her pay for it. Oh, I understand weddings are expensive, but people in the wedding need to realize that when they accept to be apart of the bridal/groom party there are expenses involved.
Oh yeah, for a short funny...My husband and I thought we were getting a free tux rental since all of his grooms were renting from the same place. Yes, his tux was free, but we ended up paying for his brothers in turn.
2007-03-22 15:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jada515 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, let me say that I am not a big fan of tons of cash thrown away on weddings. What a waste!!
Obviously you know she will have a problem with the cost of the dress. The way I see it:
If you are set on this dress, you should pay at least half Or this girl should be allowed to help select a dress. She shouldn't be put on the spot. Think how you would feel about forking over a large sum of money on something you most likely don't like.
2007-03-22 22:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but I can't believe what I'm reading here! Are you saying that YOU asked your friend to be YOUR bridesmaid, and now SHE has to foot the bill? That's outrageous! Sorry, but I can't believe it! Maybe we do things differently here but Iv never heard of a bridesmaid paying for her dress- ever! the cost of the bridal party is the bride's and her families alone. I've got friends all over the world and I've just e-mailed them to ask if they've heard of this, and all said no and that the bride must pay. Sorry.
2007-03-23 04:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to say something you really don't know if she can afford the dress.
I believe it was very inconsiderate of you not to consider there are people on budgets how can you? To be a brides made these days can run a about a couple of hundred and that's without the gift you are expecting from her come on there are beautiful dresses out there or even better you know it's pr icy how about you flip the cost
2007-03-22 22:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, when I got married, it was up to me to pay for the dress and all my bridesmaids paid for were their shoes. I paid for the dress because it was MY choice and I really didn't think they would be able to wear it again, since it was fancier then a regular dress. And I was realistic
But that was 22 years ago.
If it is really expensive, and your choice, then maybe you should be willing to give a little money towards it.
Good luck with your wedding!
2007-03-22 22:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by laura g 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If it's way out of line pricewise (I know all bridesmaid's dresses are expensive), but if it's even more ridiculous than usual you should have gotton their "buy in" at the purchase decision stage.
If she faints you could always offer to pay $50 of it or something.
How much is it?
2007-03-22 22:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by Genie♥Angel 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont be a bridezilla. Why have you picked a dress thats so expensive in the first place?
Remember you have asked her to be your bridesmaid and she has said yes in good faith. Be prepared for her to pull out.
In my opinion, you are asking her to be part of YOUR day, she shouldnt have to go into debt for it, and its unfair for you to think she should
When I get married, I will be paying for all my bridesmaids as its my day not theirs. If I cant afford, I wont have them.
2007-03-22 22:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why not pick another dress that is cheaper? After all, aren't you the one choosing it since it's your wedding? Definitely tell her before you get to the checkout; heck, even before you get to the store.
2007-03-22 22:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Spex 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to tell her straight out. If it's under 100, then she'll probably be fine with it. If it's over that, you have made the wrong choice, and either have to choose another, or you pay for it!
2007-03-23 08:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. If she finds out she can't afford it so late, that's your fault for not telling her sooner, but it sounds like you'll blame it on her being unorganised and flighty when you sound the same damn way by not telling her sooner!
2007-03-22 22:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋