I am twenty-year-old college student who lives with his mom. Today she asked me, "Do you have a girlfriend?" "No, you already knew the answer to that question, so why did you ask it?" I replied. She responded by saying, "You sound frustrated. I'm starting to wonder about you; most guys your age are chasing girls." I've had two girlfriends in the past, but now I am starting to think that I will be lonely for the rest of my life.
2007-03-22 14:56:20 · 19 answers · asked by job_32787 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what you're better off alone. Life is about giving it all back; including your body and woman. If you don't get to give it back soon enough the women will take it from you.
Play it right; six months relationships, then to the dumps.
No but, unless you find the right woman; don't stay with the wrong one.
2007-03-22 15:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being a twenty-year old single guy. Look at me and there are plenty of singles in this world. I think it was like over 62% of people are single. There are lots of statistics running around. It could be from 40%-62%; something like that. Still that's a huge number of singles. At your age, you're still discovering yourself and your place. Get your education first, then after 24 years old, you can start with women. I would also suggest that you start around the age of 28. The most satisfied long-term relationships started after the age of 30 with women and consider that the best long-term marriages evolved from a 2 year and 4 month friendship/relationship. I hope this helps. If you're a nice guy, consider the values of a foreign woman. They are even more beautiful, educated and value centered than the women in the U.S. We have some bad stuff here. Guys really get treated like crap here. You may like it better as a single man than being with someone. I had some awful relationships. I didn't expect them to turn out the way they did. They were awful.
2007-03-22 22:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by scottsorgent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're happy with your decision then there's no problem.
Your mom is just being a mom, so it's normal that she worries. I have a 13 yr old son and I'll be asking the same question, too, if he's 21 and not chasing girls.
Whether or not you're gonna be lonely depends on you. There are people out there that can be alone but don't feel lonely.
Good people (friends/gf/bf) are hard to find. It takes time, patience, and work. If you're willing to put those out there then there will be rewards. If you're sitting on your *** thinking why no hot chicks dropping their skirts for you, well....
2007-03-22 22:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by webmail0806 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
20 is still quite young and you shouldn't feel pressured into chaining yourself to one person (or any person for that matter) if you don't feel you want to. Too many people submit to peer and social pressures to meet and marry (and then produce kids) when they aren't ready for all that yet. Just tell your mom you are focusing on your school work so you can provide for that future wife and family, and maybe even be able to help your dear ol' mum in her old age too. Chasing girls is NOT a sign of maturity; knowing what is in your heart and mind is. If you are indeed feeling lonely, then maybe you do need to socialize a bit more but you don't have to commit to one person yet (or ever), just have a few friends who you can go out with and goof around with, do some fun things with to take you mind off of home, school, that looming future. Your mom may not know this but there are many, many, many people who don't start to get seriously involved until after college.
2007-03-22 22:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy having this time to yourself. I know whenever someone is ready for a relationship, the person shows up. No! You won't be lonely the rest of your life!! Just because you don't have a girlfriend now, doesn't mean you have to be lonely. Do what you like to do, and the best friendship is with someone you meet who has the same interest.
2007-03-22 22:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being 20 and single. You should not make it your number one priority either but it is a good idea to have some sort of contact with members of the opposite sex. Because u could lose your sanity and start saying things like I will be alone forever and taking ninja pictures.
2007-03-22 22:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong with being 20 and single. The right girl will eventually come along. I would not worry about your mom's comments. The strange thing is that you usually find the right person when you aren't looking at all.
2007-03-22 22:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by S A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's bizarre that your mom would encourage you to "chase girls". That doesn't sound like quality relationships to me.
Don't change your behavior just to be part of a stereotype. When you meet the right one you'll know. Lots of people in their 20's are single.
2007-03-22 22:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I took the entrance into the world of relationships very slowly...really didn't date at all until late college...I think it's a great idea...you can develop your own interests and don't need to constantly worry about maintaing a relationship...but it's nice to date even if it's casual at some point-just to learn more about yourself, your needs and relationship style
2007-03-22 22:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by November 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, there's nothing wrong with being single at any age.
And alone and lonely aren't the same thing. People in relationships can still be lonely, and some single people never are.
It's your life, make it what you want it to be. âº
2007-03-22 22:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋