Now I have no religious beliefs to speak of so that doesn't affect my decision to sleep with a girl. However, I consider myself to be a hopeless romantic (stories of love can make me cry) and thus wanted to wait till I found the right person till my first time. Sadly I feel that if I wait it might be a long time before I ever end up with anyone I love. So sometimes I think settling for a purely physical relationship with someone I know might be worth it. Both because of the the obvious pleasure side and because I'm afraid that if I'm ever with someone I truly care for I won't have skills in bed. As for the possibility of waiting a little longer, I would but I'm afraid of not being able to find someone. Most people I know consider me very smart (I'm getting all A's at a well known college) and many of the girls say that I look hot/cute but that doesn't seem to help. Also I've always been the first person to help someone, so I've been hurt by girls many times. Please I need the help!
2007-03-22 14:54:43 · 17 answers · asked by eternalpowerofkamelot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will always remember your first time. I'll be honest too in saying that the first time always sucks. Always. So if you really want the practice then go for it. Learn as much as you can. I'll be honest in saying that it isn't always easy to please a woman(I am one I would know) so practice if you want to make that special person happy when they finally come along. The thing is when they finally do they are going to want to know about your past relationships and how many people you have been with. This is where you are going to feel low in a way remembering that you basically used someone for sex and if you have to tell the love of your life about well that is going to stink. I dunno what to tell you really. It's a hard situation. If I were you....I wouldn't. Plus some women like virgins. You seem like a nice guy. The right women will come eventually and the longer you wait the better it will feel when she finally gets to you.
Anyway, I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
2007-03-22 15:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can see you have a lot of concerns. I understand how you feel because I wanted the same for myself but things just didn't turn out that way. Its a lot of pressure to perform on your first time because you are so nervous and the truth is if you don't know what you are doing you may feel inadequate. If I were you, I would just tell the person you want to that you are a virgin and you are just looking for a physical experience so you don't hurt anyone. Its very difficult to read this stuff in books. My fist time was a disaster because both of us didn't know what we were doing. sometimes girls are intimidated to let a guy know they like them if the are good looking because sometimes the good looking ones are so conceited. there is nothing wrong with waiting until you find the right woman, but if its a big pressure then do what you feel will help you in the long run. Stop looking so hard, its when you least expect it that you will find her. Take care Heather
2007-03-22 22:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait for the special one to come along. I would not say the "right one" because everyone has problems and/or makes mistakes and just because you think she might be the right one sometimes its not. Some one will come and at that time she will understand and appreciate you if she is the one. I waited until I was 20 too and now I am 25 with twin boys and a wonderful man(which is the one I lost my virginity to and the father of my children). Dont let anyone change you and if you do decide to do it then do it for the right reasons not just to keep someone. Hope this helps and good wishes to you
2007-03-22 22:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by neaquel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 19, virgin and I'm cute. But I honestly would rather have sex with a virgin guy than a skilled guy. Just feels more special you know. I hear it sucks no matter what, so I think it best to just do it someone you won't probably regret at the time, after that... well that's up too you. Follow your heart man. I wouldn't freak until you were like 25.
2014-03-20 09:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very intelligent, thoughful guy. 20 is still very young and you have plenty of time to find a girl special enough to share the experience with. Just because so many people give it up at the drop of hat, you are much wiser to wait. Girls dig guys that aren't all about sex....they are much more attractive when they have some moral standards and values. It definitely makes you stand out above the crowd that you want to keep it sacred. Don't worry, she will come along!
2007-03-22 22:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by schneeballe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already have the feelings of romance and wanting to wait for the 'right' experience, then do just exactly that! It takes a strong and mature young person to hold themselves in check when it comes to sexuality these days, and you are to be commended for your abstinence thus far! As far as having 'skills' in bed, if you are waiting for the right lady, and you find her, then she won't CARE that you don't have experience, or she wouldn't be the 'right' one, now would she? You just keep doing what you are doing, and love will find you when the time is right for it to! Trust me on this one, sugar! You seem like such a nice person, one who is concerned about what others think and how they see you.. stand your ground, and when you DO meet her, she will appreciate your having waited on HER. How nice it will be if she has waited on YOU, too!
2007-03-22 22:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by themom 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Brother I am 21 am still a virgin as well, i am not gay, but i do have strong religious beliefs, all i can tell you is to wait for the right girl, i know we men are all always looking for a beautiful girl and sometimes have to wait until love arrives!
2007-03-22 22:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Zorro 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't let the priorities of probably all the other guys you know get in the way of your own judgment. If you're waiting to put out for someone you love, don't worry about your "skills" in bed. If she feels the same way about you it won't matter if you have any skills.
2007-03-22 22:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by kirbyguy44 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the situation you have been through and I made the mistake of sleeping with the first woman/girl who wanted to be my girlfriend. We didn't last long. I regret the impulsive decision to give up my virginity.
Please try to be patient, don't settle for second best or worse.
2007-03-22 22:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you must ask then you need to continue being a virgin.
And for your information a guy talking about his virginity should not take 10 pages. Its simple you are virgin and 20 your goal is to loose that status!!!
Good luck bright individual!!!!
2007-03-22 22:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by hdnseek 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋