Ive just fallen out with quite a close friend, she says that ive been nasty to her for months and made her life a misery, which i cant understand. a few months back i told her that i liked her more than just a friend, she basically ignored this, and my best mate, who KNEW that i liked her, asked her out a week later. this (along with other factors) made me depressed, i was offered drugs by my gp but refused them. anyhow, she basically forgot about me, the friendship that we had before just vanished, and she spend all her time with my best mate and none with me. anyway, she split up with him recently, but it turns out she told him a lot of secrets i told her before, and he now hates me for some unknown reason, and he has spread something i never wanted anyone to know, something im rather ashamed of, and yet despite all of this she still says im a horrible person, just because i fell out with her a lot while they were going out (which is expected imo) am i bad? shes made me think i am
2007-03-22 14:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by Stolen Dreams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well to be honest if you were a really good mate you would have been happy for them! i fellin love with one of my best mates we were seen each other of and on for ages NOW hes going out with one of my best mates and NEITHER of them talk to me!
there both to full of themselfs to think that ive been hurt in this! and i was as innocent as you
i dont blame you forbeen upset or mad with either of them! but maybe she was only close to you as she was gunning for your mate all along! sounds like shes a ***** and you could do with out her!
and well as for him no man or woman needs a friend like them! ignore it and forget about it!
as for the things there discosing if anyone asks you about this explain what it was about then explain how people found out so people will know not to trust her or him anymore!
good luck my friend you deserve soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much better! mwah xxxxxxxxxxx
2007-03-22 15:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad person. She's trying to guilt trip you because she feels guilty for spilling your secrets and causing trouble between you and your former best friend. You got jealous, that's understandable. You weren't wrong for that either. No emotions you have are wrong unless you take them out on someone who doesn't deserve it.
Sounds like your friends have alot of growing up to do. This girl you liked is pretty worthless because she has no loyalty. There was no need for her to tell your personal business to people. Be glad you didn't get a chance to go out with her. She sounds like a twit. There's not much you can do here except try to mend fences with your ex friend. Forget about this girl. She's a major drama queen and trying to pit you against your friend for some odd reason.
Call your ex friend and ask him what his problem is. Odds are, she might've lied to him about some things and now he's upset. Compare notes with him and if she lied about anything, set him straight. Honestly, it sounds like they're both kind of psycho and self absorbed. You might want to consider getting new friends all together and let the drama queens wallow in their own misery.
2007-03-22 22:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO what a *****. Sorry I know you have feelings for her. You told her stuff in confidence now not only did she not care about your feeling for her she tried to destroy your friendship. Drop her like a stone man you can do better. As for you best friend keep tring he's your best friend but if he won't relent drop him to. There are better more trust worthy people out there Good Luck.
2007-03-22 22:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw dont worry babes just make outyour not fazed by it all forgive thy neighbour n all that let them know you happy for them even if it make you sick inside trust me u just got to know how to play em : ) dont anyone let you feel bad bout urself your an egg !!good egg!!! a shiny shiny platinum egg! that other girl isnt worth the hassle if she can lay all your secrets out like that,chin up n rise above it i say just tell yourself they be needing you before yoou be needing them trust xxxxx
2007-03-22 22:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by sunpat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, she isn't much of a friend who tells private things to anyone else, you are certainly better off without someone who treats you like dirt. yes it hurts, but ignore her and move on, you are not a nasty person, she needs to look in the mirror! find someone worthy of your friendship, and hold your head up, she's not worth your distress
2007-03-23 06:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen bud if you have a best friend who's female you can NEVER NEVER tell them that you fancy them, because that puts you in a different category,it's fatal !!
I had a very good female friend,eventually we slept together it was wonderfull the best sex ever !! BUT it was the worst mistake I ever made, Lost my best friend forever
2007-03-22 23:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by EdinItalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose your friends more wisely in future and be very careful what you say to them put it down to a learning experience and good luck.
2007-03-23 02:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might want to look up the meaning of secret so u dont make that mistake next time
2007-03-23 02:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her
2007-03-22 22:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by alizaboo19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becarful who you tell your secrets to hun youre not a bad person just a bad judge xx
2007-03-22 22:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋