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I've noticed that a lot of the people around me have been having sex, call me slow..whatever, I live in the dark ages. But really, the reason I'm shocked is because these people, my friends, you would expect to be saints, trust me, if you knew them you would think so too, and they're like sex maniacs! Talk about double lives. Now I have my owm beliefs on this, you know waiting for marriage and all. But then people are like you consevative freak! What's that all about? I try not to judge but who can really help it? The real dumb part is that most of the girls I hang with get broken up with or their relationships don't last very long after sex. Overall, what's the point? It's been asked a million times, but refresh me on this. If you have sex with your guy or girl, when you're a teen does it make your bond stronger, or is that something that can only come with age and maturity. Does it make your relationship stronger, if so, why do it so young? I'm really trying to hold on here.

2007-03-22 14:50:04 · 17 answers · asked by Blaire 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Sort of. It strengthens it momentarily because thats all that really matters at that age. But then sooner or later it will weaken because thats all that really mattered in the relationship in the first place. And why be in a relationship with one person when you have sex anyway and not be in a relationship. Thats too early to be tied down...

2007-03-23 18:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by chazy30 1 · 1 0

Don't let anybody tell you waiting is wrong. Its right to wait because when your young all these emotions are powerful and what you may consider love doesnt not always mean love. Alot of times teen guys will tell a girl anything to get sex and once they get it they move on. If they are in love it can make the bond stronger but if they are not ready to deal with the emotions and aftermath it can tear a relationship apart. Keep holding out and dont put out in the long run you will be happy you waited. Dont let what others do pressure you into something you are not ready for. There are sex acts now at the age of 37 i would never do and get called a prude i believe in love and then sex not sex then lets see if love happens for me i have to truly care and love someone before i will sleep with them.

2007-03-22 21:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0 0

keep holding on to your beliefs... sex does not dictate the relationship... its more of an attachment to the relationship... or a plus if you will... since you are waiting, sex after marriage will be something very special to you and your significant other.. you wouldnt want to have sex with someone then just break up with them later on because it turns out you dont really love each other.. now to answer your question.. does it strengthen it when your a teen.. i dont think so.. i mean.. yeah it can look that way.. because you guys have sex and it feels so good so you think you guys are in love when you have that special connection... but try to think about this.... when you guys do get married.. and you're really old.. and you dont have as much sex as you did in your younger days.... do you still love each other even without sex?.. if so... then you guys are right for each other... but if not.. then your relationship is just based on the sex.. and i dont think a relationship like that is strong... or it wont last..

2007-03-22 21:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0 0

Sex is something that will strengthen love, and I believe it's best left till marriage but that is a personal decision and not for me to make or judge. I personally think it weakens the relationship as a teenager because usually it will just add stress. As a teenager you probably are not at the right maturity level to handle sex because it is a very intimate thing (unless you do it with EVERYONE). And most teenagers aren't really in love.

2007-03-22 21:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Speak 5 · 0 0

It depends. I'm a guy who wants more of something once I have it. Once I've hooked up with a girl, I want to all the time; once I've seen a girl's boobs, I want to see them all the time. This may be the same way with other guys for sex, which could drive the girl away. Or, as the girl below me said, if they have experience and I guy doesn't satisfy them, they may say he's not good enough and try to get a a better partner. If your friends have experience, ask them. I'm also a high school student who's a virgin but I often hear about kids having sex.

2007-03-22 21:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by thesecretis25 1 · 0 0

Sex only makes a relationship stronger if there's already love... and most teenagers only "think" they're in love... it definitely doesn't work for teens. They tend to rush things too much, especially love and sex. Sex really isn't something to fool around with either, you have to be able to handle everything that comes along with having sex, and most teenagers aren't that mature yet.

Just hold on and know that when they're a little older, they'll regret having sex and be jealous of you b/c you had a better head on your shoulders.

2007-03-22 21:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1 0

if the couple is already in love, then yes it does strengthen it. but most high schoolers have sex when they arent in love. the reason why they break up not long after having sex is that they arent in love. whether they would have had sex or not does not make a difference in when they break up.
i applaud you for waiting until marriage. i hope that i can make it that long, but i dont know if i have the will power to control myself until then. if you wait until marriage, you will be mature enough and experienced enough in relationships to know that you are in love, and that sex will make your relationship stronger not weaker.
to answer your original question, it will make some relationships stronger, but others it will not make a difference. it really is best to wait, but people do not because they think that they are in love when they are not, and sex has a powerful attraction and they can not control themselves. i heard a statistic once that over half of women and one fifth of men wish they had waited longer to have sex for the first time. if you can wait until marriage, then do it. you will be happy later in life that you made that choice.

2007-03-22 22:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Richard N 1 · 0 0

A relationship can only get stronger with two things: time and respect. Remember that love is a combination of both physical attraction and emotional attraction. I believe that physical attraction is created in the first few seconds of the acknowledgement. However, emotional attraction is something that is continually growing in the interactions. A relationship without trust and respect will never last.

2007-03-22 21:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by love 5 · 0 0

No, it does not make the relationship stronger. It makes it more difficult, and stressful.

There isn't anything wrong with it if you are mature and educated about the possible risks.

I just think someone shouldn't sleep around unless they are ready to have a baby. Or prepared, atleast. Because what if the condom fails and birth control doesn't work?

Well, ya got yourself a youngin'.

Sex requires maturity or both parts...

2007-03-22 21:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by [192882] 5 · 0 0

Time together and compatibility are more important to strengthen a relationship than sex is.

Sex can complicate matters...especially in the teen years...when you don't know what you want in the opposite sex exactly.

It won't feel like it, but you're smart for waiting;)

2007-03-22 22:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Edugator 2 · 0 0

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