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2007-03-22 14:41:12 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. I have done so. I did warn the guy that if I was not engaged before I was pregnant I would not give the child the surname of the father, but my surname instead. We got engaged after a bit, 4 months later I got up the duff, and October next year will see me getting the same last name as my daughter when I marry her father.
2007-03-22 14:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my boyfriend and I have been together since my junior year in high school (8 years) and we have a 3 year old and a one year old and we eventually want more. Honestly what does marriage have to do with anything. It's just a ceremony really to show off a stupid over priced white dress. Marriage to me has nothing to do with how you truly feel about someone because people get married for way more rasons than just love. Anyway if 2 people really love eachother and are seriosly committed and ready, then why not have a child? Marriage isn't going to change anything but your taxes.
2007-03-22 21:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on a lot of things, are you sure he will support the baby no matter what? Is he responsible, does he love you, will he always be there for you, will it interfear with school and can you and he wait until you are both working. You don't have to be married to have a baby but you have to realise its all on your shoulders if he takes off, and can you do it on your own, if you can't then how will you live and support your child? Take care Heather
2007-03-22 21:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are.
I'm 18 and would not have a guy's baby because I have other goals in my life which a baby would ruin.
And it also depends on religious background. I'm not particularly religious and would not think having a baby without being married would be a big issue.
But i still wouldn't have it due to the first reason.
2007-03-22 21:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by K8tgry 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. You might end up alone and burdened. Of course, there's no guarantee that you will have companionship and assistance in child rearing even if you get married (if you end up divorced or with an absent, playboy husband), but at least with the marriage you'd have to go through a court to break up, adding a layer of hassle to that for him. Pragmatically, you're much better off waiting for the ring.
2007-03-22 21:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I already am having a baby with a guy I'm not married to.
2007-03-22 21:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have my baby however my baby came about. Through a man Im married to, dating, a guy I hate, my rapist, I will always have that baby bc my baby will not be punished bc the father is inadequate or bc I couldnt keep my legs shut at the wrong time.
2007-03-22 21:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
no i would deffinently be married before i had a baby. if i was in love, like really in love, with no doubt in my mind, there is no way i wouldnt WANT to have a baby with that person.
but there are to many other factors
-what family thinks
-of course money
-where you live
-school
-wut happens if you split up, you'll have major problems
and if you do, and your not married, she or her parents will have custody-not you.
so no, married first. sorry if i put your hopes down. =)
2007-03-22 21:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by megan'sthename 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he loved me back, he'd marry me.
He could easily agree to be a responsible father and then realize he wants nothing to do with me or my/ our baby and walk, then I'd wind up on Maury!
2007-03-22 21:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definetly I would, but I try not to put myself in that position in the first place. If it happened though I would handle it.
2007-03-22 21:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋