can someone help me?

Question

everyay i get emotional, sad, and angry and sometimes i feel dizzy and sleepy. I scare myself sometimes because i think that i will make the wrong decision, by physically hurting myself. I have alot of stress during the day like at school, and also at home with parents and younger siblings, and of course every family fights, but im always the one that will stay inside when its nice outside during the day and the evening. I dont get much sleep or excersize. Could i suffer from depression???

Answer 1

It's hard to know if it's depression or ordinary teenage angst, which is why people are telling you to talk to a counselor about this. It's true that your hormones are really going nuts at your age, and don't underestimate how much that can screw you up. You also should keep track of your periods, because it can be PMS, some people get that really bad. PMS is the week before your period, maybe a couple days into it, too. I never understood why it was that some times I was really good at math, in fact, most of the time, and other times I would bawl and bawl over my homework. I'm bipolar, but I think when I was a teen, it was PMS.

Here are my tips for stress and anxiety and depression, a counselor will teach you some of these:


If your moodiness seems to be more of a problem in the winter, try to get more sun. You could have seasonal affective disorder, or SAD. To some extent, everyone gets moody when it is overcast. It's SAD when you can't function due to your symptoms.

Try meditation tapes like progressive muscle relaxation or guided imagery. They may seem silly at first, but they work!! They help reduce stress, which makes depression worse.

Go out with friends, and if you don't have any, find a club or after school activity to join and MAKE yourself go until you actually look forward to it. Isolation makes depression worse, can even CAUSE depression.

Exercise at least 1/2 hour a day, and anytime you feel really sad/blah. Exercise is a great mood stabilizer and cuts down on stress a lot. YOu might have to force yourself. What I did was bike to school when the weather got better, like it is now. If you are closer to school than I was, you could walk home from school some of the time. In the summer, I would bike over to friend's houses.

If it's hard for you to sleep, here are some good "sleep hygeine" tips so you can sleep better. Like go to bed and get up about the same time each day, even weekends. Don't do stuff that pumps you up right before bed, like exercising and using the computer. You want to use that last hour to wind down-Take a bath? Make the bedroom really dark, cover up the clock radio, even so the light doesn't shine at you. If you live in the rackety city, use a noise generator (makes wave sounds and the like) to cover up the city sounds. Avoid caffeine in the afternoon and evening. If you aren't sleeping much because you CHOOSE not to go to bed on time, well, you need to work on your discipline. Not getting enough sleep is a big downer for mood, and you can't learn as well, either.

Put a lot of colorful things around your bedroom, happy type things, and keep the blinds open and let the sun in. Get yourself some flowers. Put on some pretty clothes. Make a list of things that make you happy. Here's some things on my list: A basket full of fluffy kittens, bread fresh from the oven, Fireworks popping on a warm summer evening, The first fireflies of the season, the scent of Jergen's cherry almond lotion, The crisp sound of a saltine cracker breaking, fresh sheets on the bed, etc. Use all your senses and read that list when you are having a hard time.

Work on time management if being overwhelmed and late for things and too much to do is getting to you. Cut back on other responsibilities temporarily so you can spend more restorative time with friends and family. I think nowadays kids take on too much, so if you have TOO MANY extracurriculars, then maybe you need to back off a little. TV is a big time sucker too, and a lot of that stuff is depressing, too. If TV is taking more than a couple hours a day, you might want to cut back on that, too. The Internet is a big time waster too. (ooops I see myself here!!)

If you have a pet, spend more time cuddling/playing with it. Fluffy or Fido will love you for it, and a pet never judges you when you need to cry.

When you're down, make sure you don't make things worse by watching sad movies, or listening to depressing music. Listen to happy beboppy stuff, and watch a comedy. Get some humor books (comic strip kind of stuff) at the library, read the funnies every day if your parents take a paper.

All the best to you. The only way to know if this is a phase or not is to talk to a counselor. Talking to your mom would be a good idea too, she went thru all this stuff before. I hated being a teen in some ways, you think everyone is looking at you and thinking you're lame or whatever, and in fact, they aren't! When you get older, you kind of get over yourself, and can poke fun at your own mistakes. It's such a relief!! On the other hand, you're making a lot of your best times right now, so you do want to enjoy yourself.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like a combination of anxiety and depression. There is a possibility that it is related to your hormones not being very stable at this point in your life. You probably would benefit from some counseling related to coping skills and stress management, but you should rule out the medical piece as well. See a doctor, journal your feelings, and be willing to reach out for whatever help you can get. Take care of yourself - good luck

Answer 3

It sounds very much like depression. You should talk to your parents or a trusted counselor at school so that you can get counseling.

Answer 4

I's talk to the school psychologist. They might refer you to someone else. There's far better sources of advice than from people here. They are called professionals.

Answer 5

maybe u need someone to talk to [e-mail]. i am here if u need it. alos try seeing an online therapist metanoia.org. i suffer from a mental illness.
what helps is just walking and music.

Answer 6

I dunno. But i wish you didn't feel bad. So there! I wish you felt good and were happy much more of the time. So there!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

its deperssion