Problem 2 year old?

Question

Ok here's the deal... my wonderful 2 year old has a temper ... when we say no he SCREAMS like we are hurting him... and keeps screaming until we either give in or leave the situation. I don't know what to do... tonight we were at the library and he wanted to "play" on the computer but we said no your not aloud. and he just started screaming and wouldn't stop. my husband finally took him out to the car and calmed him down. we can't go anywhere with him without him "wanting " something and not being able to have it and then having a FIT. any idea's?????

Answer 1

Well I have the same problem and all you really can do is when he wants something and you say no and he throws a fit ignore him. I know it is hard especially in public, but if you keep giving into him he will keep acting out. He knows you will evetually give in. If you ignore him he will eventually relize no means no. Hopefully.

Answer 2

Well I see you have started the fun. My children started a little before they turned 2 years of age and it is still going on, they're now 4 and almost 6. My 16 month is starting now too. I wouldn't give him what he wants. I made that mistake and now I'm dealing with the consequences. If we're at the store and they scream because they want something and they're not getting it I finish my shopping and leave. I won't give in and go out to the car because I have been told that they want to get a reaction. I can see if it is at the library though. He needs to know that this is not acceptable behavior and it won't be tolerated.

I don't know how much good talking will do at age 2 but you could always try but you have to talk on a 2 year olds level and explain it to them in words they understand.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

We had the same problem with our son. Its gonna be hard but you HAVE to do this.... next time you go to the store or out somewhere like the library and he starts to act up or demand things once you told him no give him ONE chance. If he keeps on then you have to stop what you are doing and leave right then. It will be a pain in the butt because if he does it at a place like the grocery store when you already have 1/2 a basket worth of stuff you have to just leave it there and get him home. Once you are at home he goes straight into time out for 5 minutes or so. He will get the idea and after a few times he will know what will happen without a doubt if you are consistant. We had to do this for at least 2 months but the time in between the times we had to leave places got farther and farther apart and now he is no problem. Good luck.... consistency is the key no matter how you handle him.

Answer 4

2 year olds are like that. Don't ever ever ever give in. No matter how bad you want to. Leave if you have to, leave the entire cart of groceries you just spent an hour shopping for. If you ignore it as much as possible always keeping safety in mind that helps. If you can tolerate the stares at the store conduct your business as if he wasn't there at all.as long as he is safely fastened in the cart. I would hold off on the library until he could behave in other situations. At home, make sure he is safe and let him scream his head off. He might wear himself out doing this and take a nap. Never let him get his way. He will probably gradually get worse if you have given in to him because he will keep trying to get you to give in again. My third one is about to turn 3 and she is textbook terrible twos so I feel your pain. It will pass ( it might return again for a while) but it will pass quicker if you don't give in.

Answer 5

Never, ever, EVER give in to his fits! If you do it once and then don't do again for 3 weeks, and then do it again...he'll only remember the times you gave in after he screamed.

Tell him before you go into a store that he is not going to be allowed to buy anything, and if he throws a fit then leave. You will probably only have to do this once or twice. Then you can reward him for being good when you go places.

Hang in there! This is a tough age, but you're the boss!

Answer 6

When you tell him no then stick to your guns and don't give in. All 2 year olds go through that, which is why they call it the terrible two's. When my son did that for the first time I just walked away from him and hid around a corner. When he realised that I'd left him for screaming, he didn't do it anymore. Then he started pretending like his legs didn't work. So we pretended like we were going to throw him in the garbage because he was broken. He stopped pretending like his legs didn't work. Good luck!

Answer 7

Terrible twos that is what you are going through. Toddlers want to become independent, and do things on their own and want things at that moment in time. It is your job to guide him the right way. Stick to your guns, eventhough he may have temper tantrums. He doesn't know how to express himself any other way yet. Teach him by telling him its not okay to have a temper tantrum and yell, thats not how we get things. Just keep explaining to him about this, after he is done with his tantrum, and sooner or later he will stop. Don't worry things will get better! :)

Answer 8

Ignore the fits, and walk away if possible. As long as he is not hurting himself, anyone else, or anything else, calmly say I'm sorry that you are upset, but it's not your turn (whatever you are wanting him to have or do). Talk to him before you go anywhere about what you are going there for and tell him that you are not going to get him anything. Kids pick up and understand more then you think. It may help if he knows what is going to happen before you go anywhere, then not.

Answer 9

Sounds like my daughter..and before people say "terrible twos" they have to understand that some kids are just born with a large spirit and pure determination to do everything they want, when they want to. I'd like to say he'll grow out of it, but I won't! My daughter is more determined than ever..all I can do is stick with what I say, try my hardest and love, love, love her. Good luck!

Answer 10

well your absolutely right he cant have everything his way all the time and i know it feels like your hurting him because you say no... but a 3 year old is very "fragile" and he really wants attention. give him attention but not to much... not enough to where it will spoil him ya know? let them scream though... mabey not in the library tho. kids at that age will scream if EVERYTHING is not their way but your the parent and you have to let them know that...