honestly what do men find attractive in a woman?

Question

ive been single noa for nearly 2 years im 25 outgoing with a good personality and i would consider myself fairly good looking. Ok im not ugly and im just going on what people tell me. I own my house and drive and have a decent job as a mortgage adviser but i cant seem to meet a man. I dont know if im doing anything wrong. I dont go out and look for it so i dont look desperate or anything like that. Do men not like succesfull woman or do they prefer woman to want and need them. I would like a male opinion from a mature aged man 25 plus as to what you find a turn on looks wise ans personality wise cos its really getting to me that i never get chatted up thnx xx

Answer 1

I keep telling people its whats on the inside that counts not the outside

Answer 2

You're an independant and succesful woman. This can be a problem for some men, this can intimidate them. Some men think they have to be the succesful ones, the ones who put bread on the table, men have egos, and well a woman having better or equal success can hurt their egos, and think they look weak and unattractive to females. That sort of sounds sexist, I suppose it is these days. But for thousands and thousands of years males were the ones who would go out and hunt and bring food to the table.
But we're living in a new age and successful women are very attractive to some men, I'm a male and find these sort of women attractive. Successful and independent women are very sexy, and a lot of men think this.
On what I find attractive in women are women with authority, intelligence and who are down to earth.

Answer 3

Unfortunately due to our "egos" lol, most men prefer to be the bread winners of the relationship. I personally would prefer a woman that is confident and doesn't depend on a man for her daily bread. as for appearance of a woman. my view is very broad. i don't find it attracive when a woman so big she looks at you like she could eat you, and not in the way most me like :). i prefer someone who isn't supermodel thin nore twice my size. I'm not sure why but a woman with blue or green eyes attract me like a magnet, i just can't stop looking into her eyes. overall personality comes before appearnce in my book. of course there's bound to be at least one physical aspect about her that I like, that's called attraction. but I prefer to know what's within her mind and heart. I would sooner marry a plain jane with a decent intellect rather than someone who's gourgeous but cares little for anything outside her personal realm. don't feel too bad, I've only had one serious relationship and now being single since 99'. any who, the three things I find attractive are a sense of humor, an open mind to all aspects of life, and being able to see past apearances. like you said, i'm no leonardo or brad pitt but nor I'm I butt ugly :) unfortunately there is no one answer to your question. pretty much each man's view of attarction is unique.

Answer 4

Many men are threatened by successful, independant women. Men want to feel like they are needed and that their woman relies on them for some of those things, financial being part of it. If you are that independant maybe you come off as being "taken"? Have you ever tried asking a man out yourself? What would be the harm in that? And if you're not going out how do you expect for anyone to know you're available?

Answer 5

you sound amazing to me!
to be frank what one man looks for another would find a turn off.
there is no hard and fast rule that applies to eveyman. likewise no two women will want the same from a man.
all you can do is keep looking and keep an open mind.
if you see or find a guy that you like the look of and you want to get to know and you want him to get to know you try making the first move. A point often overlooked is that romance starts with a basic friendship so if you can not be friends first then you can be virtually guaranteed that the romance long term will not work.
may be the reason you are not chatted up is either because you are so attractive that the guys around you are too intimidated to even approach you. or you are the exact opposite of that. again no way to tell. so you making the moves would probably be the best bet for your situation.

I'm 33 and have been single since 26 (seven years now) even then the last relationship of only two in my life ended because she decided to go back to her husband.
I'd ask you out probably. if i already knew all that about you, but those around you (the men in the places you go, do not know any of that).
Personally i know i'm not what a woman wants so i just don't bother asking a woman out if i see one that catches my eye. (trust me i see lots of pretty women around my area, i just know with my problems i'm better off single as much as that hurts me emotionally).
when you go out how do you dress? slutty or business like?
business like you are probably not going to get many if any guys approach you. slutty and you will attract the wrong sort of guy (one who is just going to want a one night stand). you need to find a balance between the two that works for you.
smart casuals would probably best (not too intimidating) a formal evening dress again is going to get you noticed but not many approaches because it may be seen that you are dressed up and are with or waiting for a partner you already have.
so may be a semi revealing top with a skirt or trousers that show your leggs at their best.
sorry to say it but guys go more on looks first. what you have in your head (your smarts they will never find out if you are dressed to intimidating for the guys to approach you).

Just offering my thoughts and opinions here. (and i freely admit that i speak for my self and not for every single man on the planet). this information is just a guidline only.

as for my personal turn ons: a pretty face, great smile, build not too skinny but not over weight either (hard to define), she should have her own sense of style and not be a fashion victim. personality wise fun outgoing full of life would be great may be some of that could rub off and get me back to the way i was before my multiple back operations. she should also have a kind caring nature she should be an animal lover though she would be happy and understand that keeping a pet is not right (unless you have a cat and let it roam the neighbourhood freely) Nobody has the right to keep another animal locked up in a cage no matter if that cage is the freedom of the whole family home in the case of a dog or a cat for example. (ok that may just be my opinion, and may be yet another example of why i'm still a singlton in singles ville).
career minded for the right woman would also be a bonus, but she should also want to share the chores 50/50 with me.

to be frank i wish i was fit and healthy as this asker sounds too good to be true, then i'd have asked her out.

as i said speaking personally here as a 33yr old man.

I wish her all the best in finding that special someone!

Answer 6

wow you sound to good to be true, you sound like a great girl. I'm as baffled as you are. you should enjoy yourself and go out with friends, your successful with your own life. that's more than most folk. don't worry you'll meet someone by chance. My guess as an average looking guy is that your confident and personally i would love a partner like that but haven't got the balls (excuse the french) to talk to you. I know a girl who sees through all the crap lines and that's why i think you should just have fun, everything else will fall into place when its time!!

Answer 7

You seem attractive from your description and I'm sorry and surprised you can't find a partner. But you may have to be more outgoing, just going to bars or clubs could help alot. Also, it's good to be extremely friendly and talkative to everyone you meet. Good luck.

Answer 8

you just have to be more outgoing
if you have a pet then walk it all the time (if it's a walkable pet)
if not buy a dog and walk in a park, now people have an excuse to talk to you, or you can use the dog to get attention of other people, like if you see a guy you want, you can accidently drop the leash and let dog run toward the guy, and he'll all like help you with the dog, and you be like let me buy you dinner, and you know just go out, and drop hints that you're single, you're bored, you want some
and people'll respond, if not, move

Answer 9

Where are all the women like you when I'm single?

Anyway... i think men at your age are either already in a serious relationship or they just want a booty call... Men love women who are confident, but sometimes its scary to try and approach them. We are afraid of rejection.

I would seriously consider trying internet dating sites. There are plenty of people on there like you that are perfectly normal but just don't like the bar and club dating scene, don't have the confidence for it, or don't have the time for it.... Its actually nice to get to know people on the internet, talk to them and get a little more comfortable with them before you first meet... then when you first meet theres not as much pressure.

Just be careful about what site you sign up for.... Sites like match.com yahoo personals and eharmony are reputable... but you still have to be careful to meet that mystery someone in a safe place and not reveal too much information about yourself to them over the internet before you know you can trust them.

Answer 10

You'll find one when you're least expecting it. It just might be that you're looking too hard. Forget it and just go out to enjoy yourself and one will come along. I know I watched my daughter's band perform tonight and someone tried to chat me up. I wasn't interested, but the point I'm trying to make is, if I was on the lookout it probably wouldn't have happened.

Answer 11

If you aren't going out and looking,then it does make it hard to meet people.Different men prefer different things.Another possibility is that men can be shy to approach an attractive woman.Just be outgoing and try to get out there!