OK. I am seeing someone who is 30 years old, great guy, smart, funny, intelligent, great dating material. We get along fine, and I have no reason to believe that he does not want to progress this relationship up a notch to a physical one. However, I'm confused. On numerous occasions, we have been making out, fooling around, me crawling on his lap and vice versa and its even progressed a bit further than that. But still, no 'physical' reaction from him, this surprised me a bit because all other signals are go, go, go, but there's nothing 'going on'. Its the 'further than that' that has me worried, its not as if I dont' have a clue what men like. Is this normal? How many times have you been in a situation like that? I don't want to make the situation worse, any suggestions on how to delicately address this question of mine without offending him?
2007-03-22 14:12:29 · 18 answers · asked by susankingal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he is not gay or married. He is definitely a male - didn't you read - 'progressed further' means I got to check out the merchandise with my own hands, it's there, trust me.
2007-03-22 14:21:40 · update #1
offer it on a plate, you can take a horse to water lmao
2007-03-22 14:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy, but I might have some insight. It's possible he maybe is nervous. Any guy will tell you if he's really nervous it's difficult to "get it up". I would bet 10 to 1 this is the situation with your guy. He may also have some insecurity issues.
The only way you'll get past these problems is to be patient with him. Take things slow, let him take the reins for awhile till you get over that "hump" and you both feel completely comfortable.
2007-03-22 14:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys like to make a game of this to see how we will react and enjoy being seduced----I somehow feel in your case it might be wise to play the waiting game a little longer before showing your hand-----if you can hold off ----it might be more intense----and YOU win the game. LOL
Try to find humor in daily life------
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Love like you've never been hurt.
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2007-03-22 14:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Press the issue. Make a move, whip it out for him and if nothing.....then he has serious issues. Or maybe just nervous. Most guys are not good at taking a hint or reading signs at one time or another. maybe this is just one of those times. Press the issue and you will know once and for all.
2007-03-22 14:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by no physical reaction, but maybe he's afraid that all you want is to fool around, and if he pushes back physically, he'll push you away. Just confront him about it if you are that close.
2007-03-22 14:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Firehawk4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you could have served ice cream with that question, gentle, that was so gentle, I thought you was talking to grandma. just ask him if he is impotent. he will want to prove to you he still has it, he will fall all over himself getting his pants off to do you. maybe he has a little weiner or a defect and doesn't want you to see it. when you start the playing around and it gets heated up, just say : do you have a condom. that will let him know you are expecting some phuckin. if that don't work, come see me. I know my way around hungry women.
2007-03-22 14:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have a physical limitation in which he cannot physically take it to the next level.
If you're ready, ask him if he'd like to go to the next level with you.
2007-03-22 14:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you say, it sounds like he is as ready as you. take the lead. try a hand massage, if no reaction,continue as before so not to embarrass him. later as you are talking, tell him about your wants and needs.break the subject of medical help.
2007-03-22 14:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by gary w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs some Viagra to get going.
2007-03-22 14:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're saying the pistol in his pocket doesn't have bullets? Sounds strange. Quite strange actually. I'd confront him and ask him if you arouse him or what?
2007-03-22 14:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him general questions, try not to be embarrassed, I am not sure that he would be embarrassed. Ask him if he is turned on, that sort of question.
Let him know that you care, that you don't wish to embarrass him but that you are concerned about...
2007-03-22 14:17:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋