my girlfriend is 19 years old (im 31) and she has a 2 year old son. I love my girlfriend more than anything, weve been dating for almost a year and a half now. Her son is so irritating though. Everytime she puts him down he cries. Hes constantly getting in our bed at night and laying on top of me which wakes me up. He always wants to be on my lap or something. I didnt really hate him until the other day when he called me daddy and random people always tell me how adorably "MY" son is. It sounds sweet but it disgusts me !!!! We cant even have sex anymore without him interupting us !! I dont know what to do about it what do you think ?
2007-03-22 14:10:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is only 2, but if you cant handle her son stop the relationship because having it go on is not fair to either of you. And if she were to pick between you or her son she would most probably pick her son.
2007-03-22 14:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, kids can be a handful....especially at two. I'm not going to call you immature, or stupid for being with a 19 year old, but if this child really irritates you, you're in the wrong place. You mentioned the word "hate" and if this is really the case it won't be long before this child picks up on your feelings towards him, if he hasn't already. If you think now is bad, just wait until he hits three. This woman and child deserve better, and this situation doesn't sound fair to you either.
Could you resent this little boy because he came from another man?
Do you just not like kids?
Did you maybe not have younger siblings?
If you really don't want to leave your girlfriend, try getting some counselling, or taking a parenting program called "No body's Perfect"
I was a single mother at 17 and this program helped me better deal with common irritations of raising a toddler....for instance, training my child (who woke up 5-6 time a night) to sleep right through. Also to be more independent.
Or go to the library and take out some books on these things.
Good Luck, I wish you the best.
2007-03-22 14:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange that the 19 yr old female is mature enough to be a mother, but the 31 yr old man has the maturity of a 12 yr old.
Children don't go away. Leave - before you affect her son & her relationship with her son. You aren't ready for this kind of grown up relationship. Oh, and you don't 'love your girlfriend more than anything' if you can't accept her child as an integral part of your lives.
2007-03-22 14:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by ang_phx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound more like 19 than 31. The boy is only two still a baby and with you being around he sees you as daddy. try spending time with him one on one and being understanding. He is just a baby and does not understand what is going on. You should be flattered he calls you daddy. And what the hell are you doing with a 19 year old cant you find someone your own age. You knew she had a child when you got involved with her and she comes as a package deal if you cant handle it end it before you hurt them both. To say you hate a 2 year old for calling you daddy makes you a sick person in my eyes. No wonder you cant get a woman your own age
2007-03-22 14:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Creepy! You were 29 and had a 17 1/2 year old girlfriend? And you are living with her and hate her son? I feel sorry for the kid! Do them both a favor and end the relationship! Her child should come first and she should not be with a guy who doesn't love him. How sad.
2007-03-22 14:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by schweetums 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her kid is not like a pet something that you can get rid of. Hes there to stay, was there b 4 you and will be there after you(if it comes to that). If you cannot "tolerate" her son then you need to talk to her and tell her whats up. Then and only then is when you need to make a decision to leave or stay.
REMEMBER he's only 2 years old and will not be that young forever. He probally looks up to you.
2007-03-22 14:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want to find someone else then. Because the child was there before you and will be there long after you are gone. Maybe talk to the mother about the child always wanting to be held and be in your bed. Maybe she can find a way to address the problem.
2007-03-22 14:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think this little boy looks up to you. He needs his mother and wants to be with her like any normal child. You need to decide - do you want both your girlfriend and her son, or neither. How would your girlfriend feel if you told her what you told us?
2007-03-22 14:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by missie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my advice, GROW UP AND BE A MAN. THE CHILD IS ONLY 2 YEARS OLD, EITHER SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT. that's what i would tell u if i was the childs mother. children should always come first, not adults. and saying you "HATE" a 2 year old child, that's just flat out b***s****
2007-03-22 14:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by Fox29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's a situation cuz she can't get rid of him. You love her you have to love everything that comes with her. The only thing you can do is just let your girlfriend know it's irritating you that these things are happening but its her son so she might take it bad or good.
good luck!
=O)
2007-03-22 14:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by all4him 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋