How to Tell Him?

Question

Well I have a daughter. Her dad still dosnt know that she is his. He nows i have a daughter. But i want to tell him its his. But how. Im scared to tell him and have it ruin everything we have.

Answer 1

You're going to have to tell him ... just bring it up in a positive manner, don't bring it up when you're angry or stressed ... because my friend back in High School decided to up and smack her baby's father in the face in the middle of an arguement, by saying and the baby's yours ... (didn't work out too well for her, so I wouldn't recommend that approach)

If I were you, I would come out and tell him as soon as possible, if he walks away from it then at least it's off your chest, because if you wait or never tell him, it will eat you up for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

I'm confused. You have a relationship with the father of your daughter, who does not know he is the father, and you are afraid that if he knows that your daughter is also his you will ruin what you have with "him." (I'm guessing you mean "him" and not what "you have with your daughter".) If you have a relationship with a man, who knows you have a daughter and he has not run for the hills, you are already got a good starting ground. If he accepts your daughter without even knowing he is the father, imagine knowing that he is. You really should tell him, or he will be very upset that you lied and rightly so. Pull the band aid on this one girl. If he leaves you because of this, than he is not the man for you or your daughter.

Answer 3

What do you have?

A relationship? A friendship? Whatever it is it is founded on lies. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine you have a daughter or a son and no one ever told you that that was your child. How would you feel?

Years down the road he'll blame you for not letting him in in his daughter's life. You are making him miss the moments he could be sharing with her right now. And that might just completely destroy what you have!

Answer 4

Each of them deserve to know that they have a father and/or a daughter. It's not fair. Do not deny each of them their right to know. There are countless of children who does not have a father figure to look up to, don't let your daughter be a part of the statistics.

Answer 5

Are you with the guy? Is it what you have with him you don't want to lose, or with someone else or with your daughter?

If you are with him, it seems like it would be nice for him to know the kid he sees all the time is his. I don't see how it would detract, as she is already there. I'd think he probably suspects anyway.

Maybe just start talking about her, and then tell him.

Good luck!

Answer 6

He needs to know that he's the father. He may be more hurt if you keep it from him any longer. The worse that could happen is he would want a test to make sure that its his. On the other hand he could be the best and most involved father ever!
Think positive. good luck!

Answer 7

You just need to tell him that you two have a child together and that he should accept his daughter into his life and that you can still remain good friends or whatever you guys are.

Answer 8

Well i am not sure what you have with him, but if he loves her now he should love her even more when he knows that she is his. He will be shocked but it will pass. Just tell him. If he is a good man then he has the right to know. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 9

Well, if its going to ruin something you dont want to happen then dont tell, if its not going to ruin a thing than have the guts to face it.
Have a nice time!!!!!

Answer 10

Hi There, Be brave when you tell her dad about her. You can ask God to help you out with this. He will help. He is they for the both of you. God loves you both so much. God bless you. Good luck on it.