Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for 3.5 months, 4 on April 5th. I don't know if I like the differences between us and our families. We are both 13.. almost 14 and we really love each other, and I'm not just saying that. I am concerned about what he thinks about my house and the car my family drives. We live on medium income and are not rich and we have a medium sized house and everything. But he's rich. Nice car, house, family and so on. I don't like him because of that though. And I've been holding off on dates so his dad wouldn't have to drive me home and see my house and I feel really bad about it. I love him, and want to spend more time with him, but I can't do it if I am so concerned about what he'll think. He loves me and my personality and so on and he's even met my parents.
Do you think it will matter or if he'll care about what my house is like compared to his?
Please help, answers much appreciated.
2007-03-22 13:47:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chances are, if your boyfriend did not like you for you, he would not have asked you out in the first place.
Life is too short to care about material things! The houses we live in, the cars we drive, when it all comes down to it they mean nothing. If he is a good-hearted, mature, down-to-earth person, he already knows this.
You are young, but life is also too short to let people go whom we love. So put this silliness aside, and make the best of your relationship with your boyfriend, relationships like the one that you guys have are hard to come by.
Good luck!!
2007-03-22 13:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't EVER EVER compare what you have to what somebody else has. Don't EVER be ashamed of what you have because someone else may "have more". Because what someone has that the EYE CAN SEE is irrelevant. It's what's INSIDE A PERSON that's so valuable & that NO ONE CAN EVER TAKE AWAY FROM YOU. His family can lose all of those "rich cars" and "rich houses" and so on and then what will they have left but GOD and themselves? When you place so much value on what a person has materially, you lose sight of what a person's worth is as the PERSON THEY ARE INSIDE. If you ever bring your boyfriend to your house and he makes fun of you or doesn't accept you because you are not "rich" (money wise) like HE is, then that is a guy you will be better off without and he really does not love you. You can be the "poorest" person in the world (money-wise) but be the RICHEST PERSON IN SPIRIT & SOUL. And THAT, my love, is more important than any materialistic possession on this planet.
Don't be ashamed of your home and what you and your family have Sweetheart. Be proud of what you have and who you are. Go on and bring the guy to your house & let his Dad drive you home if he offers - let them see where you live and what you have and don't be ashamed of it for ONE SECOND. YOU ARE RICH because you are a beautiful person. And don't let anyone ever tell you different.
(p.s. - anyone who judges a person by what their material possessions are is a "poor" person and anyone who LAUGHS AT or MAKES FUN of someone who "has less" than they do materialistically is an even "poorer" person. And give your boyfriend a chance to show you who he really is & stop HIDING because you believe he has more than you do. )
2007-03-22 20:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lizara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really likes you he will not care about the kind of house you live in. However, it sounds like you are embarassed by your home and that your family status is different from his. You must take your confidence from the love in your home and the relationship you have within your family. You can not place any amount of money on that! Best of luck to you!
2007-03-22 20:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Challenge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon
There are very few of us who can claim to be wealthy. If your BF's family is, that's great for them; but those who are middle-income should consider themselves very fortunate.
Your guy likes you for the wonderful person that you are, not for what your parents have or don't have. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, so go ahead and let his Dad pick you up at home; maybe your parents could even have him in for coffee.
Have fun! :)
2007-03-22 20:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about you then it won't matter. Do you think that you can trust him enough. talk to him about it. I think that everything will be ok. You will never know until you do it. Be proud of who you are. Money isn't everything. Good luck
2007-03-22 20:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by btjuana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this sounds harsh but you're too young to be in love, let alone know what it is or means. i wouldn't be too concerned with what he thinks but you guys are going to break up. sorry honey, but you're young. just be single and have fun!
2007-03-22 20:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that your status should be big of a deal and if it is to him then you know his true colors.
2007-03-22 20:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋