Why do people say they are looking for someone on these dating websites, but when u end up talking to them and start to know them, they tell you they dont do the online dating thing??
Also, if there is a decent website out there, free...or any single ladies out there lol... let me know.
2007-03-22 13:45:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alot of answers, but let me add this, im a decent guy or so all my friends tell me...im shy at first and all, but everytime i meet someone from online they say im not the guy they want or expected. im not mr. hollywood buff man or w/e, i admit im that great looking, but hell...the reason im saying this is cuz i just got played this past weekend when i went to meet a girl in TN. see i paid to go, then she ends up telling me im not good enough and that she still loves her ex and went back to him. Also, i get burned every time in a relationship. thats why i posted this. Cuz im just giving it up all together....im tired of getting burned, hurt, played, w/e.
2007-03-22 13:55:28 · update #1
sorry, im NOT that great looking. lol. if u want to see, go to www.myspace.com/cupids_broken_arrow
2007-03-22 13:57:13 · update #2
people use those sites for fun-
like catch and release fishing,
you get to know someone and then you can convince them to meet you or have sex, then it's a thrill...
here's a website, perfectly free, seriously-
www.plentyoffish.com, if you can't find it just message me back and i will look it up and resend it kapeesh?
2007-03-22 13:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have low self esteem and are only trying to build it up, they took a beating in their split and their ex has some new azz. so they want to prove to themself they are still hot. so they sign up just to turn you down. " or any single ladies out there, lol" there you go apologizing for looking for a woman , what's that all about, you are a guy, you don't apologize for being a man. guys like to screw and most prefer women, there is no shame in looking for some booty. after you get beyond 18, getting a g/f or wife gets a little more difficult than it was when the school bussed them in and they were still living at home. when women turn 18, the only way they can leave home is school with daddy's money, a b/f who pays the bills. some try the room mate thing but not many. so you more or less have to take her away from someone else, especially the older you get. until you get around 40 or 50, there is a surplus of throw aways at that age. since men can produce children until they die and women become infertile around those ages, men are not chasing them any more. will no longer pay the freight on them. if you aren't the type to mess with a female who has a significant other, your search will be long and tiring. if they are still single in their late 20's early 30's , no one wants them and you probably won't either unless you are just looking for a wet spot. you may have to put in some real face time to snag a keeper. good luck.
2007-03-22 14:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not true that people don't do online dating... =)
As an online dating consultant, I can honestly say that if no one did, I wouldn't make a living!
The skepticism that others have is not even solely based on experience, if at all! There are a lot of urban legend out there upon online dating, mixed in with exaggerations, and the truth. The fact of the matter is, if you use the internet properly when pursuing online dating, and adhere to a few simple guidelines, you'll find the same success that I and my clients share!
Enroll in a true dating site! Freebies are full of garbage and, while there may be some quality people that use them, it is extremely difficult to see the forest through the sleeze! People that try to utilize social networks and freebie dating site for their own exploitation and dishonest purposes are deterred by the paying sites. They are simply not willing to pay in order to lie and cheat!
I have included a link to the website which I have selected to use with all of my clients. I have them enter their personality profile and have them search for 20 - 50 people which match their personality and search criteria. This will ensure that you increase your chances of finding at least a few of them that you may be interested in meeting! Start by e-mailing them, and build your way into chatting with them online, and eventually on the phone.
Secondly, be totally honest with the persons that you are trying to get to know... The truth will always come out later on if you should meet, so avoid the problem of explaining yourself! In fact, pretend like you're never going to meet them! You will have no reason to lie, and it will make it easier for you to be honest with them, and them with you...
Spend a few weeks chatting with them, and asking all of the simple questions about them that you would normally waste the first few dates doing! This way, when you finally decide to meet them in person, you already know the small stuff, and can spend your time together enjoying each other and having a good time!
Finally, select from the 20 or 30 matches, which you have been chatting with, a handful of them to date. Start going out on dates with them and seeing if your interaction is favorable, and that your personalities truly do mesh! If the chemistry is there, you will both know it right away!
I have a 90% success rate with my clients successfully finding people that they like and enjoy going on dates with! In the end, you will either find truly good friends, or a romantic relationship with someone!
2007-03-26 10:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get scared of online dating. There are a lot of creeps out there to kill, steal, cheat, and lie. I know that is out of order, but that is the kind of people that are online. It could also be that the people on the online dating websites are already in a relationship and once it gets going, they feel guilty. That is a possibility. It is just the fear of the unknown, and long distance relationship drama. Good Luck though. P.S. sometimes people meet on Myspace, and Match.com is supposed to be good.
2007-03-22 13:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by msnothinbutalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you get what you pay for : )
I met my boyfriend on match.com and I must say he is very much worth the approximately $200 I spent to meet him.
If you think about it, going out all the time trying to meet people isn't free, so the dating sites aren't that bad a deal.
I have two friends who met their husbands online. Also, I met quite a few guys who I have remained friends with and have set them up with some of my single friends. It's a great way to meet!
2007-03-22 13:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummmm cyber stalking.... dont know.... met my husband of 7 years on line it was scary but hey i didnt even have goole then but i did check out somethings before i met him like did the phone number match the address did he really work where he said he did... and he didnt know what i looked like so i could walk on by if i had to
2007-03-22 13:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do... some do some dont.. but half the time its not worth it, there are some people that hide behind here, and at the end you get hurt.. i think to make freinds its ok...
2007-03-22 13:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beacus ethey r afraid of rejection in real life senarios
2007-03-22 13:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, cuz u can't track ppl online, u have no idea who these creppos are
2007-03-22 13:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by ❤fabulousSARA❤ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how impersonal! also there are creepy stalkers online in many cases. how do we know they are not liars? or murders? or married?
2007-03-22 13:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋