Divorced / Single Parents?

Question

For those who are single parents..Was it hard to get back into another relationship because you have children??Was it hard in general to start dating again??

Answer 1

I waited until my girls were teens before I started dating again. I don't think there is a good time, so you just have to do it. I think you should be truthful with them, but not introduce them to any guys unless you become serious. I joined yahoo personals and match.com, which made it easier to meet guys. I could email them at night when my girls were asleep and I didn't have to go out all the time looking. It was hard, but very much worth it! After almost a year of dating, I met a really awesome guy who treats my daughters very well.
Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Its always difficult, but there are a lot of fish in the sea and its very interesting to watch the new b/f with your children because it helps you figure out what a good person they are or not by the way they treat the kids. Life goes on with or without children and sometimes the children know before we do if they like them or not. Take care Heather

Answer 3

I wouldn't say it was difficult. I became choosier as far as a mate since I have to think of how it affects my daughter. In other words, when you're childless, you can date whomever you choose without thought; when you have children, your potential boyfriend/girlfriend has to understand that he or she comes second to the children, no matter what.

The positive of this is you figure out very quickly what type a person someone is when you tell him or her that you will always put the children first. If he or she throws a fit, it's a good, immediate sign this person is not meant for you. :)

Answer 4

Its hard for me as a single mother, because i dont want my kids meeting anyone unless im really into them (which hasnt happened yet) ,and sneaking around so my kids dont know what im doing or who is on the phone isnt easy! I think not being over my ex has slowed me down too. It is exciting to get to know someone new, but if your not ready for it then youll find a reason to loose interest!

Answer 5

I live with my mother and my parents are divorced. I quite honestly hated it when she started dating. The only relationship she had ever been in before that was with my father, whom she had an arranged marrige with. But, besides that, she chose a guy that was completely wrong for her and my older sister and I kept telling her that. She knew he was too, but I think she kept dating him just to spite us. But, children don't mind who you date as long as they think that person is good for you (unless they have a good relationship with the other parent and don't want them to be replaced, I didn't really care, no good relationship with my father). But, this guy my mother was seeing criticized her everytime he saw her, he was a Mama's boy, and was never independent. He told my mother to kick my sister out because she could legally kick her out and to send me to a boarding school. Just don't choose someone wrong. Listen to your kids when they don't tell you they don't like the guy you're seeing. If they give you good enough reasons other than "We don't like him," you might want to think twice. Your kids can see the whole picture since they're not in it, and they know you best, so trust them when they tell you a guy is wrong.

Answer 6

dats wat my girl said. she is 28 and has a little girl. she said it was hard because she didnt want to be treated like her last and has she was getting older she wanted a relationship dat would be stable a enough to last.

has im younger than her she said she didnt know how to approach the relationship has it had be a couple of years 4 her.

i love her child like she was my own.

Answer 7

It was at first, when you're finally ready , it's a whole lot easier. Just don't bring home someone new every night.

Answer 8

yeah, kids are a pain in the you know what sometimes, hehe