I asked for a break with my girlfriend and explained to her it was because i felt i was a last priority in her life. She puts her friends before me and follows them where ever they go. They are all single so they chill with guys ("friends")ALL the time. Whenever she is not with me she is with guys, which is once a week with me and once or twice a week with her friends and guys. We are young, only 17, but we've been together a year + a bit and i love her. She told me it's not that shes doing this intetionally, and doesn't feel shes putting me last, although she admits she's changed. Last night when i asked for the break she seemed shocked and said if that's what i really wanted, then she was going to need space. Although today she came to see me twice, and the first time we said hi, and she asked for a hug. She was shocked that she had to ask. She said she would call me when she got home, and was really touchy (trying to hold my hands while we talked).
2007-03-22 13:36:01 · 9 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked her what happened to the space thing, and she said she didn't want to loose me, and asked if she could call. I really do want to be with her, but she upsets me. I don't trust her because when we were talking, she fooled around with a guy, but because we wern't going out i forgave her. I tried to explained to her that her friends are single which is why they don't understand. If they had boyfriends they wouldnt be with guys constantly. I want to be with her, but the way she was. Do you think she'll go back or that it will be temproary?
2007-03-22 13:36:27 · update #1
She'll only change if she wants to change. Right now seems to me she want's to be single and and party then to be with you. I say take a break..even if it breaks your heart ,you'll be worse off if she cheats on you. Tell her to back off unless she is serious about being with you. You don't need someone playing mind games with you.
2007-03-22 13:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls at that age can be very close with their friends... and she may have known them longer than you. Are you using her as a crutch, and you're not socializing with friends of your own?
That being said, if she really is putting you last on your list, then I'd say a break would be a good idea to make her think about whether being you is worth it to her, or whether she'd rather have the extra time to be with the girls. But you can't keep acting like bf/gf and expect a break to do any good... hugginess and holding hands included. Tell her that you aren't angry but you really need to be socially separate for a short while so she can think about it honestly. If after that time she's realized what you meant to her (hopefully!), then perhaps she's be there for you more. Good luck!
2007-03-22 13:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How before became the unprotected intercourse? If it became the previous 5 days, then no it takes longer than that to advance being pregnant symptoms. She is in all risk only annoying herself sick. If her era is previous due you could constantly take a house being pregnant try. And for christ sake, in case you dont prefer the first jobs of being a youthful discern, wrap it up!!
2016-10-01 08:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right when you'r asking her for the space.. give her some time to think it over again to make her realize that it's you she needed.. she will eventually come back to you,am pretty sure for that.. I believe he is still inlove with you.. the good thing is she knows you love her and knows the reason why you need to do it.. so, it's a good decision...
2007-03-22 13:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by jami... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this girl is playing head games with you like this then you just need to tellher that your not going to play her games because you dont need that in your life you are young and you need to love and live your live like nothing else but yeah tell her that you arent oging to put upu with them crap and you dont want her to hang out with other guys and put thing in frount of you becasue that is not what you do when you have a boy friend i would also tel her to hang around with different girls because they are prolly the reason she is doing this stuff somtimes people act different when they are with differnt people tell her to act like her and if she wants to act like someone else then she should just go out with someone else because you didnt go out with some one fake
2007-03-22 13:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok honestly if I was a guy and she was my gf...I would either ask her to change or dump her. It's not fair of her to go out with her girl friends with other guys. If they wanna have a girls night out that's completely fine but to go out with guys I mean wtf? That's definitely not fair to you. If you all get back together tell her that you're not ok with what she does. If she keeps doing it, you do the same thing. And if she doesn't care and she STILL keeps doing it, it's time to dump her. Sorry. She doesn't love you if she can't respect your feelings.
2007-03-22 13:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok as much as i hate to admit, I've been that girl before & eventually we started dating again & it was good for like a month & then it just went back to being horrible again. if shes changed then its probably for good. & trust me, its proabably better for you in the long run anyway.
2007-03-22 13:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her another chance and see how it goes this time around when she knows how you feel about the way she treats her guy friends....
maybe she was just oblivious to the way you felt
2007-03-22 13:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Zuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her go. there's a good chance that she well go back.
2007-03-22 13:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by cmrsweetypie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋